(Closed) Concerned about my friendor photographer

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
4361 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Have you accepted her offer?

If not, just politely let her down.  “Thanks but we’d rather you enjoyed the wedding and we wouldn’t want you to feel as though you were working”.  SO offered to photograph our friends as he is semi-pro (as in not his full time job but makes money at it), and that’s what they said to us.  We weren’t offended. 🙂

Post # 4
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Can you maybe politely turn down her offer….?

Post # 5
6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would contact the school back and ask them if they have any othe suggestions? Otherwise, I’d find it in the budget to hire someone. Mixing friends and business never ends well, and if you know she has a history of being flaky enough that you wouldn’t have her a bridesmaid that would be an automatic “NO” for photographer!


Post # 6
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would make sure she signs a contract and that she has a backup lined up in case of emergency.

Post # 7
394 posts
Helper bee

Do you have a contract with her? If not, and you choose to use her as the photographer I would definitely get one in place. This should guarantee that she shows up, unless she wants to face a lawsuit. But honestly, if you are this concerned about it, I would definitely try to find someone else. Your wedding day is not something you will be able to recreate. 

Post # 8
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

First I’d ask her if she’s sure she wants to forego being a normal invited guest to work. It will give her the opportunity to prove that she seems comitted to shooting the wedding, or it might reveal that she’s not as comitted as you were hoping, and you can always “insist” you’d be happier to have her as an honored guest. If she seems comitted, have her sign a contract!! It might be awkward, but easing into it by saying something like “well, if we’re gonna make this about business lets make it official!! Where do I sign!!” should ease some tension about bringing up a contract. Also, I would insist on paying her modestly. Even a hundred dollars. I know you mentioned not being able to pay her much, but if you’ve given her money her sense of obligation will be stronger.

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