- 6 years ago
I’m a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding in July.
First of all, I have one of the girls with a lower budget. Or, shall we say, lowest. I’m totally poor. I’m like, struggling to pay bills poor. I also have medical bills from an accident.
Here’s how it was laid out:
Dress from DB that matched the other mismatched dresses, $50 paid for by her, $45 by me
Nude shoes of my choosing
Hair and make-up paid for
Wedding 4 hours away, where I could find lodging on my own (I do have an aunt there)
Well, we returned the DB dress because it was hideous. Got a Jcrew dress on sale for about $20 more, it needed alterations because Jcrew doesn’t fit my bustline at ALL. But that’s fine. It’s spaced out and so on, which makes it more affordable.
Then hair and make-up suddenly aren’t being paid for because she can’t afford it. Ok. I told her I can’t afford it either and asked if I can DIY. She’s pretty darned agreeable and so she said yes.
Then she realized that the dresses aren’t the right color. That is, at least mine isn’t, and I think one other girl too. So we’re ebaying it and getting another one?
I don’t know, I’m getting so stressed about this. She’s so accomodating, but at the same time I feel kind of embarassed because I will be getting ready while everyone else gets their stuff done for them. Jcrew dresses are going to put up a lot of cleavage on me. It’s the way it is. I’m a 32DDD. Wtf kind of size is that??? I have no desire to stand out like that. I don’t know if she realizes how it’s fitting, and there’s no way to try the dresses on before ordering, which originally was a request that I let go.
I know it’s about being there for her on her special day, but I feel like everything changes! I don’t want to bring it up with her, as I fear it’ll stress her out more.
I hope she’s not here on the bee.
I don’t know, maybe i just want some sympathy.