(Closed) Concerns with one of my FI's Groomsman.

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wish I had advice but I’m posting because I’m waiting to see the advice you get, I have a similiar problem, but its FI’s best man!!! UGH!! I feel your pain

Post # 4
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5974 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I get that you don’t like this guy, sounds like you have a good reason to, but who cares if he’s a flake?  Your FI likes him, wants him in the wedding party and aside from getting a tux and showing up on time, there’s really not much to the whole groomsman schtick…not to mention if he makes an ass of himself at your wedding, he’s the one that’s going to look like an ass, and not you or your FI.  I think getting worked up over this is a BIG waste of time, he’ll either work out as a GM or not, but you don’t want to be the one making that call.

Post # 5
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Did the friend bring those 3 girls knowing they had crushes on your FI? Or are you just assuming they did? Or maybe the friend was into the girls?
The friend sounds more lazy/uninvolved than dangerous… but I could just be misunderstanding a big :S

Post # 7
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think if this is important to your FI, you let him have this person in his wedding party. Because you know, even if your FI won’t admit it, that this guy may be unreliable and is unlikely to do anything that will put himself out, I think you should have a backup plan, maybe a brother or cousin that you could apprise of the situation and who can be prepared to step up in an emergency. (Or just be willing to accept an uneven number of bridesmaids/groomsmen if it comes to that.)

Is this guy in NY and are you getting married in FL? It may work itself out, because this guy amy not bother to come. (You can hope. 🙂 

Post # 9
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1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That sucks.  Maybe sit down and talk to your FI and tell him your feelings?  Just because you have known someone for a long time does not make him a good friend.  I am sorry you are going through this.

Post # 10
Member
485 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

HIS groomsmen are there to support HIM.  not you.

They are who they are and you should accpet his friends.  You can look at WHY your FI is still friends with someone who does not support your relationship, that’s a valid question…. but it’s probably not one your FI can answer.  

He doesn’t like all your friends.  But he’s not going to tell you who can and can’t be a bridesmaid.  How well would that go over?  Probably, not very well.

If I were you, you should keep your opinions about your FIs friends to yourself. 

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