(Closed) condoms for the groom?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: condoms for the groom
    Mirena only : (42 votes)
    58 %
    Mirena + condoms = sanity : (28 votes)
    38 %
    other : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I’m on birthcontrol pills (Yasmin) & we still use condoms & will until the wedding night!!! No surprise pregnancies for us before the big day!!!

    Post # 4
    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    If he doesn’t mind and you want it/it will give you peace of mind – go for it.

    The effectiveness of an IUD is high enough that I wouldn’t choose to use condoms, but I think it’s just fine if you do. Very personal decision, and as long as you’re both on board, either decision is fine.

    Post # 5
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Do you have regular periods or has Mirena wiped them out?  Do you know if you ovulate? How long do you want to wait before you have children?

    If you’re not ovulating and have less than a few years until you want kids, I personally wouldn’t make my Fiance wear the condom.  If you’re absolutely impossible no way can’t have a kid right now or in the next few years, I’d go ahead and wear one just in case.

    But that’s just what I’d do, this is something you’ll have to decide together.

    Post # 6
    18643 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’ve never used condoms with hormonal BC.  I don’t see the point with Mirena because it’s more effective than sterilization as long as you check to make sure it is still in there every so often.

    Post # 8
    117 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I have used the Mirena for 2 years now and we don’t use condoms. The Mirena has stopped my period completely and I have had no surprise pregnancies! 🙂

    Post # 9
    1765 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    If he doesn’t care either way, use the condoms so you have one less thing to worry about 🙂

    Post # 10
    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I’m on hormonal BC and don’t feel the need to use anything else. I’m just diligent about taking it at the exact same time every day.

    Post # 11
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    To give you piece of mind then the condoms…

    I am bad…I hate condoms (the way they feel) and was only using the pill…not sure if I took them incorrectly (I took them everyday at the same time so I dont know), the pills were bad or something blocked the absorption but yep I am pregnant. I had no problems with the pill for the 5 years I had been on it, other then a few missed periods.

    Understand though that birth control failure is pretty rare, I believe the statistic I read was 1/4 of the population, so the chances are good that you will be fine.I had used that statistic to reassure my mother who had put my teenage sister on them, although I told her she should be using condoms to protect against diseases!I think the IUD is very effective, but again to give you piece of mind then use the condoms.

    Post # 13
    650 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    When I had my implant, although it was not an IUD, I was not ovulating so we didnt use anything else. You should be fine, but you have to do what makes you the most comfortable or you wont enjoy it…just worry the entire time!

    Post # 14
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    @hecallsmelove:  Condoms aren’t great. You’ve waited so long, i wouldn’t use them if I was you personally (I hate to sound cheezy but it’ll make sex more special without them).  I’d recommend just using the Mirena and pulling out if you’re really worried. 

    Post # 15
    71 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Condoms are not that bad. I do not even notice them and the only time I do is when I think about it and get my mind all worked up over it. My husband can tell a difference but we use the skyn ones at they are super super thin and not made of latex so they really do not cause issues for us. Plus, he can “go inside” me when he is wearing the condom cause in over 8 years we have never had a condom break once. And I am not on any form of BC. I just do not worry as much as others… my mom had it embedded in my head that if you looked at a boy you were pregnant, and when we actually TRIED to have a baby, it didnt work… so I know some people are super fertile and need a ton of BC, but that is not us. Good luck! 😉

    Post # 16
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee

    We keep condoms around, mostly as ovulation backup.  If you know you won’t be ovulating, then I’d go without, but if you will be, you can never be too careful.  I voted for “sanity”.

    My goal was to have the Mirena in place for the “big night” and go without, but that didn’t really work out…  ah well.

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