Post # 1
We all wear different hats in life. Around here, I am a waiting bee with an amazing boyfriend that I canâ€™t wait to spend the rest of my life with. On a day to day basis in my real life, Iâ€™m a wedding vendor. I actually found the â€˜bee through doing some research on where to advertise (yes, we advertise here!).
I want to take a moment and give you brides some advice for when you are looking at multiple vendors. Itâ€™s ok to turn us down. In fact, we would rather hear that you donâ€™t want to use our services rather than hang on the edge of our seats with no response. When you have made a final decision of photographer, florist, venue, baker, etc donâ€™t just let the one you selected know!
Contact the other vendors you had been in touch with and let them know that while you appreciate the work they have done for you, you have decided on another vendor. Itâ€™s even ok to say who you picked! It helps us in our business to know who our competition is and why brides arenâ€™t choosing to work with us.
Donâ€™t worry, weâ€™re big kids and we wonâ€™t cry (much).
Post # 3
@smiley3: Thanks for posting this! I’m actually stressing out about this right now as I have 4-5 photographers I’m in contact with.
I’m pretty sure of which one I want to chose, I’m just nervous about how to “break up” with all the others!!
Post # 4
@smiley3: I’m sure you’re right, but whenever I personally contacted a vendor to let them know we chose someone else I either got a rude response or no response. If I’m going to the trouble to tell someone to close their file on me, I kind of expect at least a small polite recognition like “Thanks for letting me know”. I find no response to be rude and slightly arrogant.
Post # 5
@moderndaisy: I COMPLETELY agree with you. I always respond and I’m sorry that you have had such a bad experience with that.
@KatNYC2011: Don’t stress over it. In the wedding industry we talk to a lot more brides than actually book. It’s all about finding the right fit for both parties involved.
Post # 6
@moderndaisy: I got a rude response from a photog when I told her that I liked her but her work was more expensive than others.
She basically brush me off and said something along the lines of “you get what you pay for and I”m better than them” even though one of the cheaper photogs actually works for national geographic.
All the others have been SO willing to work with me on price, but she was just very dismissive.
Then 3 weeks later she sent an e-mail with new (and cheaper) packages, but after her previous response she left a very sour taste in my mouth.
Post # 7
I think you did the right thing by not working with that photographer after they were rude to you. Like I said, it has to be the right fit for both parties. Whether she was having a bad day or whatnot, there is no reason she should have brushed off your business.
On the client side I think it would be hard to work with someone after having that bad experience.
Post # 8
@smiley3: Wow what crazy timing!! I picked a photog last week (finally) and was too embarassed to send one I had been emailing with a final “no”. I just did. 🙂 Thanks!
Post # 9
It would help if vendors had an evaluation form or comment form to give that feedback through also. Sometimes it is hard to tell a person face to face you didn’t pick them because of this or that.
Post # 10
@KatNYC2011: You should have replied to that photographer’s email and told her that you weren’t going to hire her because of how rude she was before. That is so ridiculous.