(Closed) confession: i miss the excitement of just being engaged.

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I know what you mean though, there’s no big party to look forward to and get excited about. For me, it’s more about missing the anticipation of a great day! I kind of miss the planning and wish someone would just ask me to do their planning for them, maybe that’S why I still check in here from time to time. I would not say the grass is greener, maybe you  (and I) just need something else to get excited about and look forward to?

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

I think I looked forward to it being OVER so much – that I equate planning with being engaged (and family drama) that I’m so happy to be over that ‘hump’ and in marriage-land ๐Ÿ™‚

I was also engaged for a long time (14 months), so that also probably plays into it.  If I had a short engagement, I could see how that’s such a fleeting time and wanting some of that excitement back!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My wedding was 10 months ago and I still miss the excitement! I mean, c’mon, I’m still on WeddingBee…. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I totally felt like you did, probably until mid-September or even later. I missed being engaged a lot, and even more, I missed being a bride and hated the idea that I would never be one again. Which is SO strange for me because I never dress up, wear makeup, etc. I guess it was so out of character for me that I loved it. But it definitely went away, and I don’t feel it at all anymore. I’m totally on to the next stage.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I felt that way right after the wedding for awhile. Now, a year and a half later, I rarely miss it because I have a number of exciting things on the horizon that distract me. However- just today I was talking to my friend who is probably going to get engaged in the next month or two, and I got a fleeting bout of jealousy for the excitement of the anticipation of a proposal, the excitement right after the proposal, and the excitement over the coming big day. How much fun was that?!?!?!? AHh! I miss it!!  I do not, however, miss being engaged/planning a wedding and all the family drama/emotions that came along with it. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I often wonder if I will feel this way. You plan so hard for the wedding, and then it happens, and then it’s over. I was actually thinking about my friend who got married in August earlier today. I thought, “Wow her wedding was beautiful, but it’s OVER! I wonder where her dress is. I wonder what she feels about it.” I know that best part is to be married and enjoy the rest of your lives together. But there has to be some kind of “pospartdum depression” for having a wedding. (Not that I’m REALLY equating the two).

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I miss it all a little too! My friend just went dress shopping the other day for her wedding in September and I was a little jealous that I couldnt ever go dress shopping again!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I felt a bit of this in the first couple months after the wedding… now we’re on month 5 and I don’t feel it at all. I’ve succumb to the joys of being newlyweds! ๐Ÿ™‚

I help out my engaged friends here and there, and offered to throw one a small shower over the summer. And I love hearing about friends plans for the future and being able to help out.

I’ve gotten all my wedding blues out and can’t wait for the next big chapter of our life! BABIES!! ๐Ÿ™‚ (tho that’s not for another two years!)

Don’t worry, it’s totally normal how you’re feeling, and it will pass!!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I feel this way too sometimes, four months after our wedding.  We really loved our wedding (actually, we had two weddings because we’re lesbians and had to pretend-marry as well as legally marry), and had a blast on our honeymoon, and now…we’re broke!  LOL.  I thought it was partially because we’re gay that I was missing the excitement of our upcoming marriage – you know, because we’re part of the first generation in American history who can legally do so in some parts of the country.  But reading what all of you have to say, maybe I’m wrong, and it’s just a post-bridal thing that many women go through as they settle into married life – and maybe some men, too.  Everyone likes to feel special, eat cake, and be wished well by their loved ones.  I am attending a dear friend’s wedding in April, and it helps that she welcomes my advice and assistance.  I feel like an expert now, LOL.  It seems like such a waste to learn all this stuff about how to plan a wedding – and never plan one again!  SOAB!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

but your love should feel stronger:)

And, the best advice from groom’s uncle: No refunds, no returns, no exchanges, The grass is NEVER GREENER.

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