(Closed) Confession: I’m not in love with my dress

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

sorry you are feeling this way 🙁 what about it don’t you love?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I feel the same way!!  I just keep telling myself that the wedding isin’t about the dress.  It’s about marrying my best friend.  It shouldn’t matter what I’m wearing.  I think there is way too much pressure put on girls re: their bridal gowns.  And watching shows like “Say Yes to the Dress” and reading all kinds of bridal mags and blogs (guilty!) doesn’t help.  It makes us all second guess our choice…

My wedding is one month from tomorrow (Sat.) and I’m going to a bridal salon blow-out sale just to see if there’s anything else out there that I love and have to have.  Pretty crazy, considering how much I’ve already spend on the dress & alterations (*sigh*).  Maybe you should check out another bridal salon and just try on a couple of dresses?  Maybe that would help you confirm you have the right the dress (?).  That is what I’m hoping will happen for me.  Good luck. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I felt that way for a long, long time.

In fact, I hated my dress so much that my husband (fiance at the time) almost called off the wedding because we had a HUGE fight about whether or not I could just get a different one that I did love.

Shortly after that argument, I decided I needed to figure it out.  My dress was 4 hours away, so I drove to see it and see what I didn’t love about it.  After having it altered (and getting over the fact that another girl who was about 100 pounds heavier than me AND pregnant was wearing a dress almost identical to mine), I really fell pretty hard for it.  I stopped looking at it like it was the fat dress (when I bought it I was 50 pounds heavier than on our wedding day) and it was only $100 (I love a good bargain!), so basically what I’m saying is, I fell for that dress.  And every time I look at my wedding pictures, I realize more and more that it was the dress for me.  My Mother-In-Law kept assuring me that it was perfect, but I never felt that it was until I looked at my wedding pictures.

I can’t say I ever loved it, but recently my house had a plumbing issue and flooded the room where my dress was hanging in the closet and when I realized that my dress might be ruined I cried and cried.  Luckily dry cleaners can work magic! 

So, even if you don’t love your dress, I hope that when you look back on your wedding day you feel the same sentiments that I do.  Even if you don’t love it, hopefully it’s perfect for you and your wedding.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with farfromachildbride that there is way too much pressure put on finding the “perfect” dress. What does that even mean!? You dont have to be in love with it to know that it looks good on you and is something you will feel comfortable in for several hours!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m not in love with my dress.  I just keep telling myself it’s my Fiance that I’m in love with and that’s all that matters.  I also keep listing the things about my dress that I like and that I don’t like and the likes always outweigh the don’t likes (there was a reason I bought it afterall).

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Excellent point, Michelle86,  And I agree with Clarebee, it’s just a dress to wear for a few hours.  And remember girls, we’re all our own worst critics.  I’m sure all of our friends/family will be raving about our dresses on our wedding day.  Note to selves… listen closely to them and believe them!!!!!!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I like my dress a lot, but I’m not in love with it.  I couldn’t seem to find one that I loved (didn’t go shopping or try on as many as I prolly should have) and ran out of time, so I bought the one I liked the most.  I know a lot of girls say you should worship your dress, but I view it as one small piece of a much larger picture.  

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

professor, I remember you talking about your dress before (in a post about your mom’s or MIL’s dress – afraid she would outshine you in a similar dress style, etc. – that was you, yes?), and it always made me sad the way you mentioned in one comment that you just didn’t love your dress. It seemed almost like you didn’t even LIKE it, not just that you were ambivalent about it!

Did you try many dresses on? Was it hard to decide on the one you did? What made you choose it?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can soooooo sympathize!  I bought a dress I thought I liked but didn’t have that overwhelming excitment I keep hearing some brides get.  I ended up getting another one.  Not that that’s helpful at all.  But, I realized, when your hair and make-up are done and your accessories are on, its a completely different experience.  I bet you’ll love it then!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think the loving-your-dress-thing is overrated. But, I do think you should feel like you look and are amazing on your wedding day. So, if the dress doesn’t help with that maybe you can find a new dress. If you think you’re going to walk down the aisle and not even think about your dress then don’t worry about it. I did find your other post with your dress and it’s very beautiful and elegant (and doesn’t look like Maid/Matron of Honor either!) so you really have nothing to worry about.

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