(Closed) Confession thread!

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 47
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I secretly am happy that it is my FI’s family is the one having to fly so far.

Post # 48
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396 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m another that rejoices at the (majority of the) declines! We somehow ended up inviting 265 when I was hoping for around 150. Needless to say, there was no editing of the guest list, unless it was to add people. My bigger confession? I’m secretly afraid that some of the people on FI’s side are going to do something super unclassy and/or ridiculous because they’re not so big on etiquette/manners. And I feel horrible and classist about it — but it’s happened before. :/

Post # 49
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7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh I also have to confess..my mom isn’t being invited to the wedding.  She did something horrid and absolutely downright evil to my sis and I regarding our family inheritance after the passing of our grandfather last month and our grandma in february, and ran off with her boyfriend (aka the post midlife crisis dude) and married him…she didn’t tell us or any of her family (her dying parents included).

So I have no parents at all at my wedding. 🙁   

Post # 50
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1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@shaydenise – haha that made me laugh.

 

confession 1: i’m not actually engaged, but i have my ideal ring picked out, and passed along to N. i’m terrified he looked up the wrong ring, and will get me something else.

confession 2: i have a huge family, and due to restrictions on space at our venue, when family is invited, there won’t really be much room left for friends. i hope family says no so i can invite my friends instead.

confession 3 (this one is realll bad!): i’m not all that close to my nana, but my mom says that when she passes away she’ll leave me some money. as students, neither N nor i have money, so a part of me is thinking of how nice it could be if we could use that money for a wedding.

Post # 51
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I share in the crazy Future Mother-In-Law who has done horrid things to her children and family and whom I am concerned over what she will say/do at the wedding…..keeping it in my prayers.

I also am hoping for less than we invited (invited 49, hoping for 35-40, but unlikely) since our chapel holds 50 max and I’m on a tight budget.

Which leads me to confession number 3:  I am much more stressed out than I lead anyone to believe with regards to finances.  With both of us graduating med school next week (and the expenses associated with that, i.e. cap and gowns, commencement dinner, dress for commencement dinner, etc), starting residency soon (yay for finally a paycheck!!!!) and all the paperwork that needs to be filled out for that, taking a major (and majorly expensive) national board exam, and being in the process of buying a house (closing costs!)….I feel like I’m taking on just a bit too much for my comfort level.  BREATH-IN, BREATH-OUT, repeat.

Post # 52
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

One more confession: There are some members of my family that I really (REALLY!) wish I could just not invite. It would cause major drama from all sides, but I hate that I’m already anticipating (and dreading) the stress I’ll have on the day of the wedding dealing with family drama. 🙁

Post # 53
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302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Another confession:

I’m learning to deal with anxiety, and I’ve been doing much better and am even out of therapy as of a month or so ago.  I’m not anxious about marrying Fiance at all.  But part of what keeps me from being anxious in everyday life is having an “escape route” from any situation. There’s no escape route from the altar, and I’m more freaked out about that than anything else. I don’t want to be anxious about anything on our wedding day.

Post # 54
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ah, these are all so good.  I just joined Weddingbee today and I’m getting married in a month.  Yikes!

My confession is that I am starting to freak out about everything and feeling like our wedding has no “theme” or direction (as I am not very wedding-y).  We’ll just have a bunch of random stuff going in a venue. 

And I definitely feel like a lot of previous posters- not interested in being the center of attention, will feel awkward. 

And, like everyone else.  The incoming “No” responses are mostly welcome.  🙂

 

Post # 55
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

confession:

~we can’t afford this wedding.  i just start working last week, my fi unemployment has not been renewed.  i can’t cancel because all guests’ have purchased their tickets and all of the brides’ maids and grooms’ men have purchased their tux. 

~certain people i ain’t (and i do mean ain’t, sue me, i’m a southerner) will not be invited to the wedding.  my mom and dad were high school sweethearts and are both divorced.  they are seeing each other again.  if any of his side comes, he will feel uncomfortable and not be himself.

woooosah

Post # 56
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1220 posts
Bumble bee

my confession:

with a little more then 4 months away…  I haven’t tried on one dress :S going this weekend.. but i had to pick a weekend Future Mother-In-Law cant make it 😉 shhh

Post # 57
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685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My confession:

I told my parents that if they let me take spring and summer quarter off from school that I’d go back in fall, but I don’t want to! I would have to take out loans that I can’t pay back (disabled and can’t work but don’t qualify for disability even after appealing it). I don’t want to start my new life with my BF (soon to be FI) in debt with a degree I can’t do anything with. My dad is the only one who supports me in this and he’s the one paying the bills!

Post # 58
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624 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t want Mother-In-Law at our wedding either.  I figured she doesn’t support us, why bother?  I didn’t invite my mom but for very different reasons.

Because I was afraid that she would say I object [as if she didn’t say it enough to DH before the wedding] I left that part out of the ceremony.

Also, the day of drama.  Don’t worry about it.  Her behavior will be on her not you.  Yes it’ll be annoying as all get out but that will be on her.  DON’T FOCUS ON HER or she will get to you.  Focus on your groom!  Out of 60 people that came to our wedding, Mother-In-Law left with maybe 6 or so liking her, and that takes into account her entire family.  I devilishy giggled when I found out my entire family no longer felt sorry for her and thinks she’s a bitch. 

Post # 59
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340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I snooped and found out when my surprise bridal shower is – and I feel super horrible because everyone has gone out of their way to keep it a surprise.

Post # 60
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Mrs DG, dont feel bad…I’m  STILL waiting on a Thank you note from a wedding we attended April of 09….and i have a nagging suspicion that we won’t be getting one…and we spent a pretty penny on their gifts!!!!!!!!!! lol. at least you FEEL bad that you just finished it up. (thats key, you have guilt! lol.)  i have (another) nagging suspicion that this bride really doesnt care and isnt “up” on the etiquette with telling someone “thank you for not only driving 500 miles to see me get married, but thank you for spending money on your hotel room and giving me gifts worth several hundred dollars..”

ok, sorry, this hit a sore spot for me….annnddd im done. 😛

Post # 61
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389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

oh confession on my part is that i am worried that something/someone will “show out.” his ex will show up to the wedding ceremony UNIVITED of course (since we are having it outside.) someone will get into a fight during the reception. a child will go flying off the observation deck during cocktail hour. another child will manage to knock over our cake. a third child will proceed to step on my dress on purpose and think its funny to see the Bride crying.

ok, so i guess my confession really is that I really really really don’t want kids at the reception, but we cant get around it because Fiance wants them there since they are his neices and nephews. all 3,542 of them. ill just have to turn off my anxiety mode with ALOT of wine at the reception 🙂

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