(Closed) Confession Time-little white lies

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Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t pretend I’ve had it forever, but sometimes I’d just say a friend gave it to me or it had been packed away in a suitcase. I don’t do it any more, since he got his promotion/raise. Before he felt bad that I was making more money that him, so I tried not to flaunt it with my shopping habbits.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My Fiance and I actually always go shopping together so anything I buy he knows about!

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

yikes… i dont ALWAYS tell him when I use the credit card…. but it is a card that I had looong before we even met… and I pay it out of my own personal account…. eeh, now I’m feelin guilty, gotta ‘fess up!

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

There is a card that is just mine and while often go over in detail, I don’t always point things out! I am also the bargain hunter extraordinare in the relationship so he trusts that it means I usually got a good deal.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I don’t have to lie since I never buy anything for myself now that we’re saving for our wedding. Plus, I’m a horrid liar!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Isn’t it a bit weird to lie about stuff to your FI? I don’t flaunt every purchase, but I would never lie about it. Then again, I’m not huge on clothes shopping, so not much to lie about.

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Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Our finances are separate.   And they’ll be that way until we’re married.  But I won’t go crazy shopping after we combine our finances. 

I love to shop.  But..then again I’m a single hard working mother and I pay for everything myself.  Therefore, I don’t go wildly overboard with my spending so T’s a lucky guy.  

That being said, I will however, buy some lovely clothes for the wedding and honeymoon and parties though.  But I’ll do my best to be cost conscious.

It’s hard to change your ways if you’ve been carefully spending and saving and watching where every dime and nickel’s gone for the last five years.  I’m kinda glad I do that now 🙂

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

we have combined and seperate bank accounts, and i usually show him everything i buy, or he’s with me when i buy it, because i’m usually excited!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I used to work in ladies shoes in a department store and my goodness the number of women who said things like “I’ll have to hide these when I get home” or “better make sure he doesn’t see the receipt” was incredible. I had no idea people were like that, my mother never bought anything for herself, dad still has to give her lots of encouragement to go out and buy something new. We have joint and separate finances so I never have to worry what he thinks about my spending habits, which is how I like it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t hide anything from him, because I feel like that is a bad, slippery slope.  But I have to admit I have felt self conscious about my spending before, even though it is my money.  I am not debt-free though, so I feel guilty whenever I shop.  I do it anyway though.  Money and people’s spending habits are complex and emotional, and often whether a person is totally honest about their practices is deeper and more complicated than just being a “little bit weird.”  Sex and money are two of  the most contentious aspects of many marriages.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If I need clothes, I buy them and I don’t really say anything to him.  Fiance doesn’t really care what I buy, because he knows I’m a frugal shopper and rarely buy clothes for full price!  If there’s something more expensive that I want, I usually call him and tell him I want it but I’m not going to buy it because it’s too much.  He usually just tells me to buy it lol.  I guess that’s kinda me getting my way without being dishonest?

I haven’t been buying a lot for myself at all recently, due to the upcoming wedding and the holidays!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

He buys more clothes and more expensive clothes then I do! So i wouldn’t be surprised if he’s the one lying(or just not telling) But i’ve seen pricetags and sometimes its a bit much!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Nope, don’t do this and don’t ever plan on doing it.  If I have to sneak and do something that means it shouldn’t be done.  We’re not even married and I often seek his opinion on whether or not I should purchase something. 

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I don’t lie about my spending habits. We keep our finances separate, plus I make more than he does. And I’m just not a big spender. So I guess I feel no need to lie…. if I buy something I’ve though through it and I don’t apologize for it. 

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