Post # 1
When people ask us how we met, my Fiance always chimes right in, “We met on-line” and it makes me cringe a little. I always wonder if people are judging us or think we were losers for being on-line in the first place. I don’t know why this bothers me so much. Maybe because my mother says, “You’re lucky you didn’t get killed when you met a stranger out at a restaurant”
Anyone else feel strange when telling people that you and your SO/BF/FI/DH met on-line?
Post # 3
i don’t like highlighting it, but i know that’s kind of dumb. lots of people meet online now! even though i never thought i would use online dating, it worked out really well 🙂
Post # 4
We met online – he emailed me through MySpace (random!) and we met in person a week later and we’ve been together ever since. We met for our first date at the train station near the zoo in Dublin so depending on who we’re talking to we might tell them we met at the train station (makes for some great looks) but if it’s someone we know well or we just don’t care what they think we’ll tell them the whole story. I’ve probably told the whole truth 90% more than I have been vague. Doesn’t bother me – got me the best guy I could have dreamt of!
Post # 5
Honestly? No, it wasn’t weird at all, because I think comments like your mom’s are very rude and if someone had ever said that to us, I would have argued with them until they realized they were being stupid…but I’m argumentative 🙂
I figure I had two options to meet people:
1) at a bar
I wasn’t going to meet someone through my “hobbies” (I like girly things), I don’t date friends (ever), and I work with all women. At least by meeting someone online I could internet stalk them to make sure they didn’t have a criminal record 🙂
I know a few internet dating couples who get very defensive about telling people that they met online. We aren’t–we think it’s funny, and we tell people about our first few email exchanges. We haven’t gotte any negative feedback, but we have gotten a few people who were “surprised” that’s how we met…
Post # 6
haah I know a couple who completely hid the fact that they met online from their entire family. They had some elaborate lie about how they met and that’s what they told everyone.
Post # 7
Nope, don’t feel strange in the least. It’s a lot more common these days! I met Fiance on match.com and I even tell him that I think we should be on a commercial for it! 🙂 Our families and friends know that’s how we met and no one even blinks an eye…my 81-year-old grandmother even approved! Hah!
I don’t think there’s any shame in meeting people online, especially on sites like Match and eHarmony, where you can (theoretically) vet potential dates more.
Post # 8
lol i kind of feel the same way. When Fiance first friended me on facebook it asks you how you know the person (or it did back then) and he put “match.com” i was like wow– no need to advertise there buddy! haha. He has always been super open about it and while I’ve never lied… I used to totally cringe when people asked. Now I’ve made a conscious decision to get over it. The bottom line is that I met someone and I’m happy, so who cares, right? 🙂
Post # 9
Yep, and that’s why we don’t. To this day, no-one knows that we actually met on Myspace. Everyone thinks we met at FI’s old job (retail) though over the years we have told so many variations of the story that we don’t know who knows what. We pretty much try to be as vague as possible but I’m definitely a little worried about it coming up at our wedding where EVERYONE knows a different story. Back then, the thought of on-line dating was still taboo and we didn’t think our families would really understand.
When we “met” I just gotten out of a semi-abusive relationship and I was really just looking for someone entertaining to chat with. I saw his profile and thought he was cute so I contacted him. We started talking and soon realized that we clicked. When we decided to meet, I was totally sketched out since I had never done anything like this before so I told him I drove a different car than I really did just so I could make sure he wasn’t come middle aged molester. Turns out he wasn’t and he was just as cute as I thought he would be. We met for the first time at an area Applebees and he even brought me dead flowers, lol. The day we met was SO HOT and his car didn’t have AC. In just the ride from his house to the restaurant (about 20 minutes), the flowers died. I didn’t care though, it was the thought that counts. I kept those flowers for weeks until my mother finally threw them away because they were starting to stink.
5 years later we were engaged and 6.5 years later we’ll be married. We still talk about how crazy it was that Myspace brought us together. A few years ago, Myspace had a contest for couples who met on there. I think the prize was like a free wedding or something. I was too chicken to apply.
Post # 10
I tell my mother that meeting some guy in a bar, giving him my number, and then letting him pick me up for a date a week later is even more dangerous. He knows where you live, he has your phone number, he has your last name if it’s on your voice mail, but on-line you can be more cautious if you want to. But you know moms. LOL
Post # 11
I, proudly, met my husband online! As a matter of fact, we met on Craigslist!! I had gone through dating websites (eHarmony & Match) and even tried a pricey dating program called, “It’s Just Lunch” and met NO ONE with potential. Then, one day around New Year’s I decided to put a spontaneous and random ad on CL that said (and I quote) “What the heck!” as my title. My husband, among others, responded to my ad. I corresponded with my hubby for almost a month online and on the phone before meeting in person. We had our first date on 2/16/08 and have been together ever since!!
P.S. As long as your wise about meeting men in public AFTER speaking to them for some time, you’ll be okay. It’s the quick hook-ups after talking once or twice that usually get you nowhere (i.e. one date and the guy asks you to come to his place). Moral of the story is to be SMART!
Post # 12
I am very open with my friends and family about meeting online, but my fiance is the one who’s kept it fairly secret. He just tells people we met at a restaurant/bar place and he got my number there. I’m sure at some point people either have or will figure out that that’s what happened AFTER we met online, but that’s his problem not mine.
Pretty much all of my friends have done online dating at one point or another. I really don’t consider it sketchy. At least not compared to all the other ways to meet people. I would NEVER date anyone I met at work, meeting people at bars is OK but kinda sketchy, meeting people at the gym or while working out is really skeevy (I am there to work out, not be chatted up!), and I already knew most of my friends’ friends and had no interest in dating any of them. Plus, being set up my friends is kind of annoying.
So why not online? It’s no worse and often a much better alternative to all the creepy ways we meet peopel offline!
Post # 13
A couple of months ago, my best friend confessed that the guy she’d be seriously dating for eight months was someone she met online…not at a music festival like she’d originally said. I was far more upset about the lie than the fact that they met online.
I think it’s the right thing to be honest with your friends and loved ones. Don’t worry about what they’re thinking. Your relationship is happy and healthy and that’s what matters. 🙂
Post # 14
@mwitter80: see when i tell people that, they tend to think about it, and then AGREE with me! 🙂
my mom was actually proud of me for being so meticulous in my online dating”vetting” process haha
Post # 15
My Fiance and I met on MYSPACE haha he messaged me one day and after talking for weeks thru email and phone we realized we only lived 2 miles away from eachother! its been 4 years and he is my best friend so I would tell people poo on you I found love!
Post # 16
When internet dating started in the mid-90’s it was embarassing because I felt that there was something wrong we me because I could not meet anyone the old fashioned way. But you know what its helped people meet who would otherwise never have met. Its the norm now. I would not be embarassed about it. You found each other, thats all that matters.