(Closed) Confession-What don't you like about your in laws?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@snickerdoodles: his mom makes us sleep in separate rooms because we’re not married yet, even if we’re not in her house!

Wait, do you mean she makes you sleep in seperate rooms not in her house? Like… she makes you get two hotel rooms?

 

Post # 49
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2531 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Future Mother-In-Law can be a very angry person.
I dislike talking to her sometimes because she’s always gossiping – and not in a good way – about people from church, work, bible study, etc.
She exaggerates (because she figures I don’t know her and she can get away with it?) her stories to a point where she makes up these completely inappropriate things.
I mean – one time she said something to me (it was a story about how she told off a neighbor) that I KNOW she didn’t say to him (she better fucking not have) but it was so completely unforgivable that it’s shaped my opinion of her – I don’t like her as much after that comment.

Post # 50
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2167 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Daizy914:  I really love Father-In-Law and Mother-In-Law, but my FI’s twin brother is another story. He is unemployed alcoholic in denial. He was laid off last June and has been out of work since. He tells us he has been applying on jobs ever since but I don’t buy it. We live in a city where every adult could have two jobs if they wanted. The problem is he expects like a management position and he is nowhere near qualified for that. So in the meantime he sits at home drinking all night and playing Candy Crush and sponging off his Mom and Dad. And now he says he may have to sell his house because he can’t pay his mortgage, in which case he would also have to get rid of his four dogs as most apartments don’t allow pets. I think he wants us all to feel sorry for him but I don’t. Like, where was this sense of panic and urgency about 8 or 9 months ago!!?????!!!!! It disgusts me to see the position he is putting his parents in. Having said all that, I could never tell him how I really feel about his siatution as he would probably never talk to me or Fiance again. So I bite my tongue most of the time around him.

P.S. He is 38 years old!!!!!!!!!

Post # 51
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I really do like my Future In-Laws.  They are really great people.

That said, I grew up very structured into my time.  I plan and excute my time with very little room for error.  I know when I have to leave to be somewhere on time (meaning 5-10 minutes early) and make sure that at least my Fiance and I do so.   My Future In-Laws on the other hand have no concept of being on time.  I have learned that they need to be told to be every where early, or they will not be on time.  We went on a vacation with them to a massive event where to enjoy it we had to be places on time.  Even more importantly, we had to be there on time so his nephew (who was travling with FPIL and Fiance and I without his parents) could be on his schedule.  We were never there on time, which lead to a very cranky nephew at times. 

I also am going to have to lay down a few rules when we have kids.  They are wonderful with their grandkids, but they have trouble saying no to the kids and not overriding Future Sister-In-Law and FBIL’s orders with their kids.  My Fiance completely backs me up, and has told his parents “If Nana and Papa had done this with us, you would be very angry.” 

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My Mother-In-Law is one of the most negative people I’ve ever met.  She’s constantly scoffing, and ‘ugh-ing’ if something is going right.  Everything is also a BIG deal and she makes things out to be way worse than they actually are.  She also can’t hide her emotions…if she’s annoyed, she’ll show it.

I think I notice it more because my mom is very laid back, easy-going and positive.  

Mother-In-Law and my mom don’t like each other. It’s very clear that Mother-In-Law does not like how happy-go-lucky my mom is, and you can tell by the way Mother-In-Law talks to my mom.  It really bothers me, and my mom and sister of course notice it too. Luckily when we are all together (my or my husband’s birthdays for example) my mom can look past this and try to still enjoy the evening.

I haven’t mentioned it to my husband because I don’t want him to be offended about his mom obviously, so we just keep it between my side of the family.

Post # 53
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Bubblesmcgee:  we went to her mom’s house a few months ago, she made me sleep in the tiny bed in the guest room, and the SO sleep in the living room.

Post # 54
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

They’re extremely negative, passive aggressive, and sarcastic. No one can ever do anything right and they can never let anything go – one mistake and you hear about it FOR DECADES aha. We avoid them as much as possible and only really see them at Christmas, Easter, and Thanksgiving even though they only live three minutes from us.

Post # 55
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472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@snickerdoodles:  Oy.

I had a boyfriend in college who I essentially lived with (we both had our own places, but spent every night at one or the other’s house) and when we visited his mother, she put me in the guest room and told him to sleep on the couch… until one visit when they had more guests than space, and she sent him in to “find out if it would be okay if he stayed in the guest room with me”. 

I told him only if he didn’t try to get fresh. 😉

Post # 56
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Bubblesmcgee:  his mom knows we’ve lived together almost 3 years now, but keeps us sleeping in separate rooms around her. If we fall asleep on the couch together, she constantly shoves SO until he wakes up. We’ll be married by the next visit, and he said if she tries to still do this, we’ll just rent a hotel for the night.

 

Post # 57
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Future Father-In-Law has like 30 children and has always been a user of women. I can’t stand him and Fiance knows it. Future Mother-In-Law is a socially awkward doormat who plays favorites with her children. I just shake my head at her.

 

Fiance is nothing like his parents. Thanks goodness!

 

Post # 58
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4605 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I couldn’t find anything bad to say about Future Mother-In-Law if I tried. She was a great woman and accepted me into their family right away. Future Father-In-Law is also wonderful, but he is very stubborn and likes to do things his way, even if another way is easier. He also keeps pushing us to have kids even though he knows that we aren’t sure we want them. 

Post # 59
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3507 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

OHHH this thread was made for me lol

 

 

 

I have two of each; 1 Father-In-Law, 1 SFIL, 1 Mother-In-Law, and 1 SMIL.

 

 

 

FIL- I use to get a long with him just fine but when his wife (SMIL) started to have issues with the way Fiance and myself lived he thought being an ahole to us would fix it HA

 

SFIL – Love him! Great person no issues

 

 

MIL- Love her but ever since I got pregnant (first grandchild) she is overly pushy and needy and driving me up the walls!

 

SMIL- good person but seems to feel like I took her stepson from her. CRAZINESS!

 

 

 

I always joke that I have one mother in law that won’t talk to me and one that won’t leave me alone. lol

 

 

 

Post # 60
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

The only in-law I have an issue with is my husband’s brother. I made a whole thread almost a year ago about what a pill he is, but he basically decided that he should dislike me and warn my husband to stay away from be becauseReady? This is ridiculous…

I apparently look like my brother-in-law’s ex wife. Because my physical appearance reminds him so much of hers, he assumes that I must also be a bad apple.

My mother-in-law is an ignorant boob but she’s a well-meaning person, I suppose. Some of her attitudes annoy me but she’s not trying to start shit. My brother-in-law constantly is.

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@alysee:  lol that’s exactly like me! the only GOOD thing about my in laws is that they made my Fiance… i like my Future Brother-In-Law, who also managed to be a cool person. they both see that their parents are ridiculous, though.

Post # 62
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1342 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I like my in laws a lot.  But there are certainly things that I do NOT like.

 

 

 

I’ve heard about them talking poorly about me on numerous occasions.  One, they were making fun of my weight. The other, they were talking poorly about me missing Christmas with them because my grandmother died….  They are kind of selfish like that.

 

They also are very opinionated.  Luckily Darling Husband is finally realizing that it is OUR life together and OUR decisions.  Before, he was apt to listen to his mom telling us how to run our lives and think it was the only way.

My brother in law…  He’s cool and fun.  But he has major issues with the truth.  He lies.  All the time.  If his future wife knew half of what we know, who knows if they would be together.  He’s burned us so many times with his lying.  I’ve given up on being friends…  We can be cool, but not cool like that.

 

My Future Sister-In-Law.  Most of our friends don’t like her.  She’s a very cold person and they just tolerate her for my Brother-In-Law.  I’ve always been the ONE person to defend her and make an effort and try to get people to give her a chance.  Recently, I found out some things she said about me and that’s all done now.

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