(Closed) Confessions of a biased potential Bridezilla……advice and rebukes welcome….

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hope you feel better for that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i don’t really think there is anything for anyone to say to you because you obviously have your mind made up on how you feel about everything.

i wish you the best of luck in the rest of your planning and hope your day turns out lovely.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow.  As far as #4, I don’t want to give my mom full control, but I will give her some freedom about things I don’t care all that much about.  Is that a possibility?  I know my mom would be extremely hurt if I just cut her out of planning.  It’s a special day for her too.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

1) I would personally rather pay an extra $600 and not have tons of drama about why all of the kids from his side are there but kids from your side aren’t.

2) Definitely add your friend’s girlfriend sicne you can’t invite just half a couple/ But don’t feel bad about the cousins! You just can’t invite everyone.

3) You need to CALL people who don’t RSVP, because if they show up you have the option of making a scene or having to set up extra spots at the last second.

4) I think it’s great that you and Fiance are making the decisions, but I hope you don’t have an ‘I don’t give a shit’ attitude when you speak with them about it! If you do, I can see why they’d be hurt.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Huh… you do realize you will likely still have to associate with these people at some point after the wedding is over, right?

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It really bothers me when brides not only accept being a “bridezilla”, but embrace it.

I’m a firm believer that the day is not all about you — rather it is a celebration of your marriage and the love of your family and friends. Neither of which, IMO, should be punctuated with pretentiousness or hostility.

Try not to lose sight of where you would be without the love and support of your “guests” throughout your lifetime.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Umm let’s see…

1) I have no advice because we had kids at our ceremony and reception. They were amazing and provided some good laughs.

2) The girl is fine, but don’t worry about the cousins. I just found out one of my cousins is mad because he wasn’t invited. I haven’t talked to him or his sister in over 8 years. His wife is rude and her (female cousin) new guy I don’t even know. I’m refuse to lose sleep over it.

3) I felt this way too, but this is where Darling Husband stepped up and took care of some things. He called his people and got answers, I didn’t and had 2 extra show up. I was actually happy they came because I love the cousin and him and his mom were the only ones on my mother’s side that came. Not even my grandma came and my other aunt planned a trip during that time and both lied to me about it.

4) I planned by myself. Not to be mean to anyone, but because I liked it. However, my mom and sisters were wonderful and helped set everything up while we had our pics taken. I wouldn’t count them out all the way.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

600 For a babysitter?  Really?  That’s insane.   You should adveritse locally.  I was a babysitter in college a few times i got $6 an hour!  Unless you’re gonna need them for 100 hours…

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