(Closed) Confessions of a First Time Mommy & things they never tell you.

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@okqueenbee:  It’s nice to read about moms stating how they really feel instead of trying to act perfect and competing with each other. It is so refreshing. And I’m not even a mom! I just spend a lot of time with people who are mothers lol. Props to you for dealing with all of that, it must be very difficult. You can do it!!!

Post # 18
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Thank you!

I’m due to give birth next week, and I LOVE hearing real stories! Especially ones about how hard it can be.

If I have this baby and go “Wow, this SUCKS”, I don’t want to feel like the only person that’s ever felt that way because no one else has spoken up about their (totally natural) feelings!

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

HATED THE baby stage also with a passion…I mean, I wanted to gouge my eyes out

NO TIME FOR SELF…And I had two kids back to back. I will NEVER have anymore for no amount of money. I will die for my children but it was just.too.hard.

They are now 5 and 6 and I like this stage much better. They can play for longgg periods of time without having to have me as the center. I also enjoy them much more now.

Milk never came out when I tried to breastfeed. After two days, they went with formula. No guilt over here. They are happy and extremely healthy.  But in hindsight, I dont think I would have enjoyed it either. 

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Thank you for posting and for your honesty!!!! As a mom to be, it’s so refreshing to read these honest posts. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@okqueenbee:  Thank you for this post!  I agree with everything – it’s HARD being a full-time mom to a newborn baby!

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is EXACTLY what I think I’ll feel like (I’m not due until June).  Thank you for writing it down b/c I was feeling guilty already!  I’ve even told my Darling Husband that I think it’s only one kid for us… but we have logical reasons why 2 would be better (I won’t commit at this point).

Thank you!!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@okqueenbee:  THANK YOU! Just what I needed to read as I sit here in tears struggling with my 10 month old who still doesn’t sleep and I am still breastfeeding and feeling frumpy and just not sure I want another baby ever!! I wish I’d known what having a kid would entail, I mean really known all these details of the gross things and never having any time to myself. Ugh!

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Babies are hard and anyone who tells you different is a damn liar. it really does get better, I promise. 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@okqueenbee:  All of what you said sounds pretty reasonable to me.  Especailly the part about babies being really tough when you have no help.

Sorry your having a tough time with these aspects of young motherhood.  It’ll be ok though, and I think a lot of people share your frustrations.

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I agree about breastfeeding – it’s the hardest thing about having a baby IMO. It’s painful and it sucks.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I am not a mom, but when the day comes I could see myself feeling exactly as you do. Before your experience, did you plan to have more than one child? Or is your decision based off of how your delivery went?

I am nervous that I wont enjoy motherhood as much as Im ‘supposed’ to. Huge fear of mine.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@okqueenbee:  Thank you so much for being honest and real. I’m thrilled to be a mom in July but if I hear one more person tell me how its all sunshine and roses and perfection the minute the baby comes into your world, I think Im going to scream. Yes being a mom is wonderful but its hard and it comes with a lot of shitty parts that people like to NOT talk about.

So no rage from me, just sympathy and admiration for being honest. I do have faith that it will get better and then you will have days that will make you miserable again, and thats just parenthood. Or really… thats LIFE!

Hang in there, girlfriend!

Post # 30
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@okqueenbee:  i applaud your honesty, i really do.  when i had my son, i felt very similar to you (although i did not bf) but you just have to smile and pretend that you love it all.  i can tell you, as a mother of a 29 year old, every year gets better and better.

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