Post # 1
I found out yesterday that one of my bridesmaids will be six months pregnant at my wedding. I was over the moon for her when she told me and wedding planning quickly turned to baby talk. We had a good laugh as we made plans to go’ Maternity Dress Shopping’ instead.
She was telling me a story she had read where a Bridesmaid had gotten fired for falling pregnant, since her contract had forbid her from doing so. I also know someone who was fired for cutting her hair.
Are there really brides out there like this? Have you heard a horror story or are you a Bridezilla?
Post # 2
Bridesmaid contract? Dafuq? That’s crazy.
Post # 3
sandy85: I have never heard of a bridesmaid contract , but I am quite sure there have been brides who asked BM’s to step down for such transgressions. Soome brides place more emphasis on the pictures rather than the overall picture- having your closest loved ones share in your day.
Post # 4
I was told by a friend I couldn’t cut my hair before her wedding. It was a little bridezilla of her.
Post # 5
There was once a bee on here who inquired as to whether a certain hairstyle would make her BM’s face look less fat. So, yeah. Apparently superficial things outweigh the actual relationship for some.
A contract is just bat shit crazy.
Post # 6
That contract thing, she read it a couple of years ago, in one of her Bridal Magazines. In Australia we have Cosmopolitan Bride, not sure if many countries make their own editions or anything…
Come to think of it though, I am pretty sure I went to a wedding where Bridesmaids were chosen on their looks. I’m mot disgruntled, it was my male cousins wedding, I was certainly not close enough to the Bride to be asked. But I think they were chosen on their looks so she wasn’t upstaged. Her very attractive sister and best friend weren’t Bridesmaids, instead all four were noticeably fuller figured then her, had dresses that showed that and had poorly done hair and make up.
Some people hey
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I think the ultimate was not on the Bee or in a magazine (although lord knows there have been plenty!), but in an advice column I read once. A woman who wrote in had been “best friends” (or so she thought, but who knows) with this chick for a decade and the chick had been the writer’s Maid/Matron of Honor. Now, it was the writer’s friend’s turn to get married … and she selected other bridesmaids. Whatever, it’s hurtful but it happens. BUT! Here’s the best part: the bride proceeded to write (as in, old fashioned, handwritten, on stationary) a letter to the advice seeker about WHY she’d chosen other bridesmaids. Apparently the advice seeker was plus sized (not huge, although it wouldn’t have been ok even if she was) and the bride felt it was important to pick bridesmaids who would “fill out the dresses appropriately” and “fulfill her vision” for the wedding. Her justification was that she would have to live with those photographs forever, and felt they wouldn’t be worth hanging up if she included women who “didn’t respect their physical appearance” enough. However, the bride wanted to say there were no hard feelings and of COURSE the fluffy friend would invited to the reception, because of course they were BFFs after all!
Advice seeker wanted to know if she should go despite being humiliated.
As a curvier lady myself, I may have gone just to dramatically belly-flop into the cake right as they were about to cut it while saying “OH NOES!!! FATNESS RUINS WEDDINGS!! OMNOMNOMNOM”
Post # 8
rachel85: The last paragraph. Frikking hilarious.
Post # 9
rachel85: Ha ha ha! That would have been hilarious! What a BBF, as in Biggest Bitch Friend. I would not have gone, what a horrible person.
My sister is a bigger girl and she will look beautiful at my wedding, why? Because she is my sister and my best friend. As for the photos, they will show all the people I love and that is all I care about!
Post # 10
rachel85: I think you would have been an awesome guest to have at my wedding! 😀
A contract implies one party is giving or doing a service of value for another party in exchange for something of equal value. I always thought bridesmaids were the closest people to the bride that she wanted to be there to witness her union and share in her wedding happiness. Evidentally, they are simply hired help to some people. I always think of weddings like alcohol. They don’t make people do crazy things. They just bring the crazy closer to the surface for everyone to see.