Post # 1
Not sure if this should really be in the beauty section…but here goes. I’m having major confidence issues when it comes to how I will look at my wedding. Between my weight and just overall appearance I’m terrified I won’t look like beautiful bride my groom deserves.
I’ve never been the confidence person – but this wedding is making it even worse. Heck even my name deals with my appearance (125 is my goal weight…only 20 to go!).
Am I crazy? Or do other brides feel this way?
Post # 3
You’re crazy. And I mean that lovingly. There is no such thing as an ugly bride. Seriously. They don’t exist. Like unicorns. You will be gorgeous. You WILL be gorgeous. And at 145 you are hardly obese. Maybe you aren’t Statham ripped but who cares? Your guy loves you for exactly who you are, 20 lbs less or 20 lbs more, and probably finds you drop dead sexy.
I’d be lying if I said no one ever worries about what you are worrying about. Even I have and still do from time to time. What has helped is telling myself I look good even when I don’t feel it. Seriously. Out loud. In a very “I’m obviously joking by how seriously I’m taking this” type of tone. “I look gooood.” Or telling DH “you only wished you looked this good.” It’s totally silly but the fake confidence eventually trained my brain to turn it into real confidence.
Try not to worry too much. You will look fabulous.
Post # 4
He asked YOU to marry him. He obviously must think that you’re the best lady out there!
Post # 5
You are beautiful exactly the way you are. You may think you need to lose weight to feel better about yourself, and that’s totally your choice. You have a man who appreciates and loves you for who you are, not who you could be – embrace that.
Everyone has their own perception of their own beauty and that’s completely normal. You are not defined by how you look but about who you are, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, especially those who seem to ‘have it all together.’ They may believe that they are more beautiful but that’s just on the outside.
Post # 6
I wish I could go to you and give you a big hug full of confidence. I posted just a few short days ago that I was frustrated to look at the scale because I was at my heaviest. You know what my fiance told me when I told him about my issue? He said, baby you are so sexy and I can’t wait to marry you.
I bet you any money that your fiance feels the same way about you. Focusing on the number isn’t important. Through the scale away. Focus on how you feel about yourself not compare yourself to others or worry that because you are 20 lbs over your goal weight that you aren’t attractive.
Post # 7
@coolbride125: I wrote a post in emotional concerning this issue. I am avoiding all talk/viewing/looks/smell/reality tv of bridal gowns because I’m fairly certain I’ll be an ugly bride.
I think the insecurity is just part of the experience. :/ And I also know that no amount of “of course you’ll be beautiful,” and “your FI chose you,” helps. It’s a personal thing and lets both pledge to work the issues out so we can enjoy our weddings without weird body hang ups. We’re going to be married!!
Post # 8
Here’s what’s neat about being a woman, if you feel beautiful, YOU ARE! I understand that there’s a lot of pressure about what you are supposed to look like on your wedding day and the fact is, what make a bride beautiful comes from within. A blazing and consuming joy, excitiement, hope, & love, love love! That’s what shines through on her face, in her eyes, even in the way she holds herself….hang onto that, with both hands and forget about those 20lbs…I guarantee that you will be radiant, and that the world will stop, just for you and your intended on that day.
Post # 9
@Nona99: Couldn’t have said it better!
@coolbride125: Beauty comes within, and you will be the most beautiful bride on your wedding day! Your man loves you for you, and really, what the hell is 20lbs anyways?! It is a number, weight is nothing but a stupid number! Love yourself, tell yourself you are beautiful. And trust me, you will start to feel it.
For me, doing little things like wearing parfume, curling my hair or wearing pretty earings always help me feel prettier. As well as eating healthy, and going for walks. Hang in there girl. YOUR GORGEOUS!