- 6 years ago
Let me start by saying that I love dogs. Anyway…
As soon as Future Mother-In-Law heard Fiance and I talking about getting our own place, the first thing she made sure to say was that we’d have to get a dog friendly property because we’d have to take FI’s dog with us. Of course, I’d always planned on taking his dog, and so did Fiance. I have no problem with that.
Future Mother-In-Law is an animal lover (obsessed with her dogs). There are seven dogs total here (including FI’s dog). The house is like a freaking funny farm, and it is frustrating to me. There is dog hair all over everything and when you sit down on furniture, it’s all over you. You can’t go anywhere without worrying about whether or not the dogs have someone to take them out to the bathroom while you’re gone. You have to work extra hard to keep your home smelling fresh. There are always dogs under foot and it can be overwhelming. Needless to say, I don’t want my home to be like that. I’ve always been against having an indoor dog (not against other people doing it, by any means, I just don’t want to at my house), just because of the cleaning hassle it involves.
The situation as it is right now, FI’s dog stays outside all day and only comes in at night to sleep in his crate. His dog is dog-aggressive, so he can’t be around any of the others that do live indoors here. I assumed the arrangement would stay the same when we got our own house. I figured we would build him an outdoor pin with a shelter and take him outside in the morning and bring him in at night to his crate. Lately, however, I’ve realize that Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance are NOT on the same page as me, and I’m worried.
Fiance insisted that he wants the dog in the house, running loose, all of the time. The other day I told him that it would not be an option because he is a very large dog (90 pounds) who is very playful and rambunctious. He likes to jump on people in an effort to play, but he is so large that it is painful when he does it, and a lot of people are scared of dogs (especially a large dog lunging right for them). I don’t want people scared to come into my home, and I don’t want to have to worry about chasing him down to lock him up everytime the door bell rings. Again, the cleaning issue is a big thing with me. I don’t want to have to vacuum my furniture every single day in order to rid the dog hair.
This dog is used to being outdoors during the day. He cries very loudly when he gets locked up and hates being confined. He is too big and playful to be confined in the house. Yet, Future Mother-In-Law is insisting we need to keep him inside all day. The other day, she said, “We’re gonna build a fence that connects from the dog pin to the house so all you’ll have to do is open the door and let him out a few times a day.” She was referring to this dog pin she’s already planned out in her head that she wants Future Father-In-Law to build at mine and FI’s house! Hey, we don’t mind a free dog pin, but I really need her to understand that I’m not keeping him in the house all day. I love the dog, he is precious. But, I just don’t want him to be an indoor dog. Fiance and I will let him run around a little and hang out with us when we’re home, but for the most part he will be outside and at night he will come in to sleep in his crate, just as he does now (and has done his entire life).
Should I consider just biting the bullet and letting him be an indoor dog? Or should I stick to my guns about him being outside during the day? I don’t want to cause any issues with my Future Mother-In-Law. Her dogs are her entire life, they are all very spoiled. So, it’s just hard for her to understand why I wouldn’t want a dog in the house all of the time. I don’t know what to do in order not to ruffle any feathers.