(Closed) Conflict about FI’s dog.

posted 7 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What about suggesting some obedience training and a regular (pro) grooming schedule to your FI?  Honestly I don’t believe a social creature like a dog should be left outside all day, but I agree that you cannot have him jumping all over people and I hate pet hair too (I had three cats and a dog at one time, so I sympathize).

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think there has to be some sort of middle ground you can come to. It sounds like your dog really enjoys being outside, but what about when it’s really cold or really hot outside? I’d never leave my dog(s) outside in extreme weather.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Clark Gardens

My in-laws have outside dogs and they are happy pets. If they were allowed to roam around indoors all day, they would be extremely distructive. I can see this happening with your dog if you wind up letting up stay inside all day. A large dog like the one you have, who is used to being outside all day, will probably not be happy to be stuck indoors. 

The ultimate decision is between you and your Fiance in YOUR HOME. Unfortunately, Mother-In-Law needs to stay out of it. She may be a dog lover, but it isn’t any of her business how you take care of your own pets in your own home.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t think the dog will like that… He probably likes being out doors and being penned in the house all day would suck for him. I would say in the best interest for the dog keep the poor guy out side. He isn’t a baby and doesn’t like playing indoors all day.

If I left my dog indoors all day he would be pissed. He likes his out door run and even goes in there when we are just out in the yard. It is his little home. If it is really cold out then we keep him in the garage. I can tell when I get home he would much rather be out side. Plus then he doesn’t wreck anything (he has separation anxiety).

We only have our dogs in doors when we are home. He used to be allowed on the furnature but when I moved he was no longer and we were able to train him to not go on the furniture. He does sneak up some times when we are not home but our furniture is in no way covered in dog hair now.

Good luck! I hope you and the dog win this one!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Dogs are pack animals.  They NEED to be with their pack…you, as the dog’s family and caretakers, are that pack.  I am completely against keeping dogs outdoors, with the exception of working dogs, (LGDs, for example, need to be outside in order to protect the livestock, and working sled dogs often don’t do well indoors).

I used to HAVE outside dogs.  My parents were raised on farms, so both have what I call the “farm mentality” that dogs belong outside.  For many years, I thought there was nothing wrong with it.  But when I started to actually research dogs and canine behavior, I realized how wrong it was to force a social, family-oriented animal to live outside, away from the family.  I wish I could apologize to my previous dogs, but I did the best I could with the knowledge I had at the time.

When our last dog was a senior citizen, she made the transition to an indoor dog very easily, with only a few accidents.  She was 60-ish pounds, and our current dog is around 80, give or take.  And many people have much larger dogs inside than that…Great Danes, for example, because of their body structure and low body fat cannot be outside dogs.  So size has little to do with a dog being an indoor dog or not.

Yes, your FI’s dog is big.  Yes, he is rambunctious.  But with TRAINING, (which should have been done years ago, but trust me, it’s not too late to take control now), he can be a calm, happy member of the family.  Also, keeping a house clean when you have one dog, even a big one, is a lot easier than keeping a house clean when you have seven dogs.  

 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Miss Apricot:  you said everything I wanted to say.  Post like this always make me so sad.  Dogs are not meant to live outside, away from their family!  

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Pinksapphire: From everything you’re saying it sounds like he just hasn’t had any training.  Lots of dogs display the same behavior as your dog.  Running around, jumping on people, barking at other dogs.  Those are all VERY fixable things.  You just need to invest some time and a little bit of money into training him to behave and listen to your commands. Dogs are VERY smart and shouldn’t be underestimated.  It’s never too late to train him.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

That sort of behavior is not appropriate…and that’s what training is for. There’s no reason that you can’t work on training your dog to be both inside AND outside.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

“Should I consider just biting the bullet and letting him be an indoor dog?”

No this isn’t what you should consider-this is what you should do. He is a part of your family. Yes, hair is annoying (I have 2 large dogs and 2 cats) but when you love them (like you say you do) the trade off is worth it. He sounds like he just needs some love, exercise, attention and possibly training. This will help with the jumping and “playfulness”etc.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Miss Apricot: I have to agree with you… I have 2 great danes & a very bossy medium sized mutt, INDOORS, unattended, all day, every day.  First of all, they are all well trained (as in Fiance & I are on the same page, with consistent rules and we use the same words for commands- much like someone would do with a toddler).  I have sheets on the couch to protect it from their gargantuan toenails.  The danes do sleep enclosed in their own room, and we have separate “food stations” for lack of a better term in our downstairs mud room. 

I second what previous people have mentioned about training.  There is little more powerful than a spray bottle of water to deter the dog from undesireable behavior.  Check with local dog rescue groups as well and see if they have specific trainers who can help dogs transition from one living arrangement to another.  The move will probably be more stressful on the dog than on you guys.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@Pinksapphire: My dog does that too. She’s no where near that size, but as a medium/large sized dog, she’s big enough to knock you over if your not prepared or are just intimidated by dogs. I am scared of dogs when they run at you.lol. Of course certain males in the household taught her to jump up and so she wasn’t trained not to do it. Can you take your dog to a training class at petsmart or somthing like that? The dog will want to be around you guys (the pack) especially with no other dogs around, it may get lonely in the yard all the time.

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