Post # 1
I am having my wedding in the summer of 2014, and I still havn’t decided on any decorations or colors or flowers AT ALL. All I have is a dress. It is a beach wedding but for some reason I really don’t want it to be too “beach-themed”, with tons of shells and such (even though that is very pretty). I have considered having a casablanca-old-hollywood-meets-middle-east kind of decor/centerpieces, but I would love to have something colorful and bollywood-esque. Only problem is, I am not having an Indian wedding and I do not want my wedding to be a situation where I am appropriating anyone elses culture. I have been to India a few times and I am learning to speak Hindi, so I really just have a love for India in general. Is it inappropriate for me to even think about doing this? Any truthful feedback would be very helpful. Or other decor ideas would be good too. Thanks everyone!
Post # 3
I don’t see anything wrong with having huge, dramatic, colorful centerpieces! I think the bright colors would be stunnning next to a summer, beach wedding!
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Aloft Hotel
@Panda13: I feel you about a love for all things Indian! A good rule of thumb for cultural appropriation (thank you for being so thoughtful) is that it’s appropriation when you are using another’s culture to take and it’s appreciation when there’s an aspect of giving. Example: Wearing Native American headress as fashion during the Victoria’s Secret fashion show= appropriation. Victoria’s Secret was taking something from another culture for their own profit and giving nothing in return. On the other hand, having Native American’s represented in the fashion show (designers, models, etc) and asking them to express their culture in traditional dress= appreciation. It would include them and GIVE them the oppoortunity to showcase their culture.
Since neither you nor your fiance are Indian it might not be appropriate to wear a bindi or have your bridesmaids in saris (though I don’t get the idea that’s what you wanted to do), but there are ways to show your appreciation for a culture through inspiration instead of completely mimicking them. Using rich colors and/or draping would be a beautiful idea that can incorporate some of what you love about India without being offensive.
I thought this looked like a beautiful idea for a wedding on a beach without a beach theme(sorry for such a big picture!):
But I would use birdcaged or something instead:
But I think it should come more easily once you lock in a theme. I’m in the same boat. Wedding in the woods but I want to incorporate some elegance instead of rustic. Good luck!
Post # 5
@chickspartan: Thank you for your extremely helpful and thought-out response! Also, good example with VS (I remember that show). I totally agree, and had not even considered wearing a bhindi or getting my bridesmaids to wear saris. I mostly wanted to just incorporate it in the decor but didn’t really know how to in a respectful way. I LOVE the pictures you provided. I am digging the moroccan lamps. That is pretty much the vibe I wanted and I really love the colors.
Post # 6
@Panda13: As the pp has said, there are ways to do this respectfully. I suggest picking out your colors first.
Are you aware of the websites http://www.theperfectpalette.com and http://www.design-seeds.com?
On perfect palette you can scroll down on the right, click on a color you love and see all the palettes they have developed using that color.
On design seeds you can search by theme or play around with the search by color value tool till you get a color you love then see the palettes
Post # 7
@julies1949: Thanks! I just loaded both of those sites and they look really awesome so far. I think that will definitely help me pick my colors better. That has been my biggest road block so far. I am really not good with matching things on my own!
Post # 8
@Panda13: Me either. When you do decide on a palette, go to the paint store or Home Depot etc and get paint chips in those colors to carry with you. It makes it so much easier to know if something is the right color.
Post # 9
Go for it! We had a Faraway Lands theme and incorporated a lot of Indian and Moroccan elements. My invitations and programs had Eastern designs, I had Moroccan overlays, and lots of burgundy, gold, orange, and blue. I got one of the Moroccan lanterns for the altar. Find different ways to include eastern patterns and design elements.