Conflicted about my engagement photos

posted 1 year ago in Recaps
Post # 2
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I love the first three! There are bound to be a few duds as she’s snapping between poses and while youre both moving. For my sisters wedding I ended up using the not so cute photos for other funny things (cut out the heads for funny fridge magnets, clip art and etc) Photographers usually take 800+ photos at a wedding and usually 100-200 might be album/print worthy.

I think she has the skills BUT what matters most is that you and fiancé trust her and are comfortable with her documenting your big day. For under 2K! What a steal!

Post # 3
573 posts
Busy bee

I think the quality of the photos is gorgeous! (And the first three are beautiful!) As PP said, though, there’s going to be duds; especially during a candid shoot. 

If you don’t feel comfortable with her doing your wedding, though, that’s all up to you. It’s your wedding. 

What I would suggest is take her up on her offer of a free mini shoot at the house with your dogs and then make your decision. You might feel better if you’re on your home turf, where you wanted to be in the first place, and so might feel differently about the pictures. 

Post # 4
9721 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I think it’s normal to have some pictures you don’t love. One of my wedding photos has me making some super awkward pose where I look like I’m pretending to be a dinosaur. It’s hilariously awful. But I have so many that I absolutely love.

Post # 5
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

First off, congrats!  You two look so happy, and I really love the 2nd one.  🙂

To address your concerns: You should go over your likes/dislikes with your photographer (lighting, poses, expressions, angles, etc..), so she knows what shots to try and get.  Yes, it could be a little uncomfortable, but I think it’s worse to not say anything and be disappointed.  Tbh, I’m a little surprised that she included the last 3 shots.  They usually select the best ones (from the series) and send those.  Did she happen to send you all the photos?  If so, then that would make sense.

Similar to you, because of budget and priorities, we went with a younger/up-and-coming videographer.  He’s enthusiastic and pleasant, but FH and I have accepted and are okay with the fact that our video won’t be like the ones you see on YouTube.  It’s similar in your case with the photographer, for under 2K, you can’t expect her to deliver what an experienced wedding photographer will offer.  With all that being said, you only need a handful of good shots on your big day.  So if you’re comfortable around her and like her personality, you guys should be good!

Post # 6
636 posts
Busy bee

The first three are beautiful! I actually really like the one where both your eyes are closed, you look very relaxed around each other. The second to last one looks like a candid photo taken by a friend instead of a photographer but it’s still a very cute picture. The very last one looks like you guys are showing off your goofy sides. 

Post # 7
3380 posts
Sugar bee

I will be honest. I am not super impressed with her work. You can also tell in the photos that she doesn’t have a lot of experience putting her subjects at ease or posing them to look their best.

Post # 8
47 posts

I mean I think it’s odd to send you photos where both of your eyes are closed, but no matter how skilled the photog is, that’s gonna happen (they just don’t usually send them). $1600 for an engagement session, mini session & wedding day seems EXTREMELY reasonable. 

Post # 9
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

It really depends on how you truly feel. Our engagement photos turned out awful as it was humid and we were torn apart by mosquitoes. Also, the photographer was not prepared and was pretty much coming up with weird poses on the fly. That really showed once the pictures were done. Plus, the photos marked edited barely looked edited. Luckily this was the push I needed to get my now husband to agree we should pay more for photography. Our original photog agreed to give us back our deposit once we expressed how disappointed we were and we booked another photographer for a little bit more.

If you did not feel comfortable working with her or if you feel she was unresponsive to your concerns, than find another. However, I will say that it is very nice of her to offer a mini re-do engagement session. Also, most people do not know how to take directions and pose properly for photos so that sometimes comes through in the pictures. My advice is to take her up on the offer to do another session. If you still do not like the photos, start looking for another photographer. Wedding photos are not something to take a gamble on as if you are not doing videography, these will be the only thing you can look back on. 

Post # 10
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Honestly I’m not totally loving them, even the first three. The way your fiancées arms are crossed in the 2nd one, seems a bit awkward to me, and even the first one although not bad, just doesn’t look like it’s posed as well as it could be. I like the third one. 

Not bad by any means, just not wowed! Sorry!

Post # 11
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I would take the free session and see how those turn out. I do agree that you guys look great in the first few pics. BUT I do think after you see the photos from the mini session you need to go with your gut. In my opinion pictures are way too important to risk it if you aren’t happy with her work.

Post # 12
1395 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

I’m not super impressed with her work, even the first three. And I wouldn’t dare show my clients two of the three bad ones she gave you, honestly.

This is normal to see in more of a beginner photographer, but if you’re doubting her ability now, I’d go and find another one for something as important as a wedding. 

Post # 13
379 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2021 - British Columbia, Canada

The fact that she’s willing to come and do a mini session with your pups – to me – shows that she really wants to get comfortable working together with you so you can have the best wedding shots imaginable 🙂 I totally get that we are all our own biggest critics, but for what it’s worth, you look gorgeous in all of them. I’d take her up on the mini session to see if the vibes improve before making a decision about going with her for your wedding or not.

Post # 14
282 posts
Helper bee

You guys are a really cute couple, but I don’t feel like I’m looking at professional photos. These just seem to me like snapshots taken by a friend, as PP mentioned. I would definitely be open to looking for another photographer if I were you.

Post # 15
975 posts
Busy bee

All three of those dud photos should never have even made the cut to be edited much less sent to you! I’m not impressed and this makes her look amateur. I’d look into finding another photographer. 


PS- your Fiance looks so much like Prince Harry to me lol! Anyone else see it or am I just crazy?! 

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