Post # 1
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Worker bee
Hubby upgraded my wedding set for our 10 year anniversary, and while I truly love my new set, I feel a bit strange about not wearing it 24/7. (The half eternity band is soldered to the e-ring, so I cant wear them seperatly) I wore my old set all the time, I never took it off, and you could tell. It was always gunky and had alot of scratches. I want to take better care of my new set, but I feel conflicted about the times I dont wear it. Im a stay at home mom who loves to cook and who regularly disinfects everything, and I find myself not wearing my ring for a large part of some days at home. (I have a billion kitchen gadgets that are hand wash only, I regularly lotion up the kids, I work out with weights daily, Im always hand forming cookie dough, etc) I ALWAYS put it on when I leave the house, or have people over, or sometimes just to stare at it while watching a movie on the couch. (And it always goes back in the box in a certain spot on my dresser. Its either in the box or on my finger, I wont set it down anywhere else.)
Ive been thinking about maybe getting a plain band as an “at home” ring. But then I feel like that might be “cheating” on my new set. LOL. Here I am, wanting to take better care of my new set, but then feeling bad taking it off. I have issues. LOL. Anyone else feel guilty when they take their ring off? Even when they know its for the best? (I keep telling myself I dont sleep in my diamond earrings, so its sort of the same thing, but 10 years of having something on your finger all the time is a hard habit to break!)
Post # 3
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Busy bee
I am not married yet, but I do take my rings off a lot when I am doing things around the house. Then I notice it isn’t on and I feel weird. I had it off almost all day on Saturday b/c we were putting up the tree and it kept catching on branches and the strings of lights and I didn’t want to get sap on it as I was doing most of the lights. Then we cleaned and I don’t wear it for that. I can see not wanting to wear it all the time for fear of it gunking up.
What about a plain inexpensive sterling silver band? That is what I was thinking about getting myself for our honeymoon (which will be delayed) as we are going camping and I don’t really want to wear my set in the woods. Also, thinking of getting one for Fiance as a wedding band to wear to work in the summer. He bartends (he is a teacher as well) and I hate the thought of his good ring flying off into a cooler and him not noticing or going down the drain or something. Though I guess he could also just not wear one to work.
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
@JB212: Yeah, just get a stand-in band… a thin gold one or something. I think plenty of people do that.
I want a pretty elaborate set so I won’t be able to wear it all the time either.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
Why not wear your old scratched set around the house?
Post # 6
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Busy bee
@JB212: Yes. I know how you feel. I don’t feel right either when I’m not wearing my Claddagh ring and wedding band. Thankfully, this doesn’t happen too often.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I don’t see wearing another ring as “cheating” on your new set, I see it as pampering. If you still have your old set then why don’t you wear that for everyday? You know that it can stand the toughness of your daily life. Or get a plain white gold band. They have 10K white gold ones on Amazon for about $79.
When I take my ring off to go to work as a CNA I have to say my finger feels weird and rather naked. So I don’t blame you.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@JB212: I take my rings off the second I get home. I never wear them at home, but I always wear them out (unless I forget and it’s a quick nip out and back). I think of it as keeping my rings from getting too beat up. I clean them every three weeks or so as it is.
Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
I take my ring off when I’m doing something messy (cooking, cleaning, etc.), and while it does get dirty from daily wear, I usually just wash my hands with it on (warm water and mild soap) and 1-2x a week take a soft nail brush or toothbrush and scrub the setting while I’m washing my hands.
Post # 10
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Worker bee
I wouldn’t worry about it, and just think about using a stand in when you’re at home. I always take my ring off when I’m home, since I am similarly washing my hands/dishes/cleaning/lotioning up/whatever and don’t want to gunk up my ring or keeping taking it off. I’d think of it as keeping your set clean and pretty for when you wear it outside of the house!
Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
I don’t like to take mine off either, but I do in the circumstances you’re describing. Personally, I thnk I’d prefer a plain band to stand in during those times than having a bare finger or risk damaging the ring. I’m going to need one for travel anyway, so that’s my plan. I don’t see it as cheating on it… I like it better than nude finger…lol!
Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
you obviously care about your new rings and want to take better care of them. nothing wrong with that.
i seldom wear my rings at home. i wear them only when i go out.
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@JB212: I am the exact same way. To me, there is no point in wearing your expensive, prone to damage, e-ring/wedding set when you are doing household chores. I have a plain 10K WG comfort fit band I wear in place of my e-ring when I am not out/if i am out in a dangerous area.
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I am in the wear it and enjoy it group. Nothing looks better than a well-worn ring. You can have it cleaned regularly if you worry about it getting dirty. I only take mine off when I am cutting up or cooking with hot peppers because I got burned from the capsacin once under my ring and it hurt like crazy for a few days. I also take it off when I am making messy foods like hamburgers, meatballs, and dough because they are a pain to clean from under the ring.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
My mom’s rings get put onto her ring holder when she gets home, and put on her finger when she’s leaving the house. I wear mine similarly (but usually to bed at night so that I don’t forget to put it back on before I leave for work).
I don’t see a whole lot of reason to wear them in the house. Taking them off as soon as I get home means that they always go to the same place, not just next to whatever I happened to be doing when I took them off.
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