(Closed) Conflicted about Vasectomy..Please read.

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I feel ya girl!  I married a man eight years my senior who had gotten a vasectomy long before we met, I’ve never wanted children, don’t see that changing and am content to be so blissfully disinterested in my reproductive cycle that Mr. 99 knows when I’ll be needing chocolate and tampons, not me….it’s awesome!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

A vasectomy isn’t permanent. Vasectomies can be “easily” (as compared to a tubal ligation) reversed quite successfully, if you and your husband decide to have children.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Have you thought about the paragard IUD?  I had mine inserted three months ago and it’s been pretty great so far.  I had a lot of issues with hormonal bc pills, but this doesn’t have any hormones so I haven’t had any weird side effects.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The mirena iud  also goes in your uterus, not in your vagina.

You mentioned that you’ve tried all kinds of condoms, but just to make sure – you’ve tried non-latex and natural condoms?

I think you might have a hard time finding a doctor who will perform a vasectomy on someone so young.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@PinkMermaid:  Nope.  The first night I had it in I forgot to take pain pills before I went to bed and I had the worst pain I’d ever experienced that night, but if I would have remembered those I don’t think there would have been any problems.  When I went for my check-up a month after I had it inserted it was in exactly the same spot.  Nothing weird has gone on except irregular periods.  I would definitely recommend it; I love mine!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

what about a diaphragm?  I know theyre a little 70’s lol… but theyre pretty effective, fairly inexpensive, and allow for a good degree of spontaneity (like, put it in before a dinner date level)

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

One option would be to get the vasectomy and have some of his sperm frozen, “just in case”. But hey if he really wants one, let him get it! Vasectomy reversals have improved in their success rate in recent years.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I second the Bee would recommended the Paraguard, my friend had it for a few years before she decided to have kids. She had all kinds of bad reactions with hormonal BC, like mini strokes, fainting, you name it lol.

Also, a vasectomy reversal is about 60% effective (from what I knew about it a few years ago). My uncle got a vasectomy after he and his wife had two children, his wife decided she wanted another baby. He got it reversed, and she got pregnant with their third, and final, child. That being said, if you guys are seriously considering this, I would have your husband store some sperm before the procedure and if he/you ever change your mind you can try that first before paying a lot of money and going through a lot of pain with a reversal.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I third the Paraguard! I was in a similar situation, condoms left me chaffed & irritated no matter what kind we used, & every BC I took had side effects (none bad just irritating really). For a long time I just sucked it up & we did double duty with condoms & BC, then switched it up to BC & pullout. Once I got the Paraguard put in we’re ‘real’ sexin-it & it’s never been better! Paraguard is a bit painful at insertion & during your first few flow’s but don’t let that scare you! It’s hormone free so that was what really sold me on it. I’ve had it now for 3+ years & have never had an issue with it. Feel free to PM if you have any questions or need any info! 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

vasectomy’s aren’t really all that permanent. my dad had one before he and my mom get married. he got it reversed and had four daughters.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m going to go a little against the grain here and say go for it, but just be SURE you’re 100% okay with it first. A vasectomy should be considered permanent, because that is the intention behind it.  Sure, there are reversals. Sure, there’s in vitro. But those options are expensive, for one thing (way more expensive than the vasectomy, that’s for sure), and they are not guaranteed to work. Your reasons for wanting a vasectomy as a couple are totally valid. I just urge you to be completely sure, since you said yourself the permanence gives you pause. My fiancé was sure he didn’t want (more) kids, and then he met me. Now we have to deal with it. I’m just saying things can change. Chances are you won’t change your mind, and in that case it sounds like a perfect solution! Just be aware, because I wouldn’t want you to go through the heartache we are currently experiencing. 

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