(Closed) HELP! Conflicted and don't know what to do

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think the stress is building because the end is in sight. You’re done with the long distance thing. In his mind, maybe he thinks what’s one more month in the scheme of things, while you have a totally different view. Maybe try to see it his way and stay focused on what you need to do.. either way the end of being LD really is near!

Post # 7
1042 posts
Bumble bee

kat010710:  Ugh. I feel you on that. But since he is looking for a job he may be feeling the strain of finances as well. 

Chin up buttercup, you’re only a month out roughly!

Post # 9
1042 posts
Bumble bee

kat010710:  Was him coming out in April pre-planned? If not, than I can see him not wanting to spend the money when he plans on coming in May. Vegas was pre-planned so he had time to save. 

It sounds like you want him to fly out, fly home for a wedding, and fly back within a month span. That’s a lot of money, especially if he is job hunting. Can’t really find a job if he isn’t around to look for one. 

Long distance is hard. And it’s even harder when your end is in sight. Do you guys Skype? FaceTime? It’s not the same as being in person, but it does help to be able to see the other person. I definitely think you should talk to your SO though. It is very important to keep those lines of communication open, especially during stressful periods. Don’t make demands even if you feel like you are giving up more to be with him. Just discuss your feelings and see how he feels about it and what his feelings are. 


I know what it is like to leave my job, friends , and family for my SO job. It’s going on two years, and I do get lonely and sad that I had to start over but within that time he’s gotten a promotion that comes with unlimited $$$ potential and opened up new doors for retirement and in the company. 

Because this helps secure our future I don’t regret it. 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 7 months ago by  Shoot4theMoon.

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