(Closed) Conflicted: friend I have chose not to include in the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

A reading is a good way, I think! Depends on whether or not she’d enjoy it. I don’t think the reading has to suit her. But maybe you can give her first pick…like instead of “We thought you’d enjoy doing this reading,” say something like “We thought it’d be awesome if you could do a reading, here are the options, would either of these be exciting for you?”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

When my hubby and I were deciding about whether or not to have a reading as part of our ceremony, he brought up an important point. You either include a reading because it is significant to you as a couple OR you have a person that you want to include in the ceremony.

In our case neither was true. In your case both are true. I don’t see a problem selecting a reading that fits a particular individual.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

A good friend of mine from high school did not include me in her wedding. I had moved away & we only saw each other about once a year. I’ve now moved closer & we are closer & she tells me often that she wishes she’d included me. 

I say, find something for her. Make her your witness for your marriage license maybe?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

How could a reading not suit a person? Like @missjuli:  says, just ask her. Maybe she’ll be fine with one of the readings you’ve chosen.

FWIW, not every close friend needs to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I don’t think you need to worry about that. But you can also make sure she’s in some of the photos. There’s no law stating that only the bridal party can be in photos.

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