Conflicted! When someone tries on your engagement ring

posted 1 year ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

pear24 :  TBH I think it’s creepy and no one should be asking. Like I can kind of understand if bff or sister who has never been engaged asking to try it in private for that moment of fantasy about the day when it will be them, but then again they cou,d a.so just buy a $10 ring at walmart for that because it is essentially playing dress up. Anyone else asking is wierd and wrong and comparable to “hey your fiance is hot, can I kiss him?” Imo

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

How does someone trying on your ring change your relationship with your fiancé?

 

i personally do not understand why people get all weird about others trying on your ring, but to each their own.  I take it as a compliment when people ask.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My sister (who is now engaged so no longer asks) would ask to try both my ring and band for a long time when we would see each other. We live 2 hours apart so it wasn’t all the time or anything, but it was pretty much every time we did see each other. It didn’t bother me, but then again, it’s my sister. Part of it was that she felt like she wanted a ring and band like mine (eventually when she did get married) and I think she was trying to figure out if that was how she felt wearing it, or if maybe she would like something different. 

Your situation was definitely strange and it sucks that happened, but I really don’t think it changes anything about your relationship with your fiance or anything. Just have something prepared for anyone you would like to avoid having try on your ring in the future and I think you’ll be fine.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2020

To be honest I think it’s usually odd to ask to try on someone’s engagement ring, but I also don’t think it’s a big deal or has any significance worth being concerned over.

I think if OP’s superior was rude in the tone of her request then it’s understandable that anyone would be surprised and not know how to respond. I think the rudeness is a seperate issue from trying on the ring.

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Close friends have asked, and I don’t mind. Truth be known, I have NEVER asked to try on someone’s ring. I don’t get it. Whenever someone asks, all I can think of is Why?!?

Either way, don’t get too bent out of shape. Sometimes people catch me off guard too because I wasn’t expecting the crazy. I have also found that because I have the argument in my head many times after that including all of the responses I should have given, I find that the next time I’m in that position, I respond in a way that I should have that first time. Simply because I’m now ready for the crazy. You’ll be better prepared next time. Just let it go for now. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

No. I won’t be taking mine off – and my partner won’t tell me how much he spent, either, so that’s a definite no. “Sorry, we ate Chinese takeout last night and my fingers are so swollen and puffy – I’m afraid if I take it off, I won’t get it back on!”

Post # 23
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wear a small ring size, 4 (engagement ring is 3.75).  It only happened to me once, a co-worker asked to try on my ring when I was first engaged.  So I asked her what her ring size was.  It was a 7 so that was my way out of letting her.  😉  I thought it was rude and weird of her to ask in the first place.  No way is my ring coming off of my finger, lol, I trust no one. 

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

In some cultures it is considered good luck for the person trying it on. I think it “brings them luck that they will soon be married” or something like that. But i’m pretty sure the person wearing it needs to offer, rather that someone aggressively demanding to try it on, lol. Personally, I would not want to let anyone try it on, its such a personal item. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

No one asks to try on my e-ring! cry Hahaha! I honestly didn’t even know this was a thing!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Some of friends and I do this, but it depends on the person and the relationship. It really only happens when one of us is shopping for an ering or a new band and theres lots of ring talk going on and it’s usually offered or someone will suggest trying theirs on because they want to see it on you. But if someone I didnt know well asked or someone demanded to try it on, I would probably say “Sorry, it’s really tight and hurts to take off so I’d rather not”. It’s like driving someone’s new car or rubbing a pregnant womans belly! You dont ask to but if they offer, heck yeah! haha

Post # 27
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Newbee

Nobody has asked to try mine on but I don’t think I’d mind.  When I do anything labor intensive around the house I have my mom put it on so I don’t damage or lose it 😅

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

Also, I need to know what kind of insurance coverage y’all have if it has to be in your finger in order for loss to be covered….

 

Post # 29
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Two of my close friends asked if they could try it on. I didn’t have any problem with that. I loved to see how my precious looked from another perspective. In turn I tried on someone else’s wedding bands while I was searching to find the right one for me. It was never awkward I felt complimented and so did my friends with their wedding bands. 

But no one ever demanded it. That would be akward. I am a super straight forward person and if I wouldn’t want a person to try my ring on I’d just say “hell no, that’s not an option”. But I am also from Germany. I don’t make a point of being friendly to everyone. 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

I’d sooner let someone try on my BRA.

There’s no way.

But, like Twilight, I have resting bitch face so people tend not to approach me for stuff like that. 

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