(Closed) Confused

posted 7 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My husbands not a planner either and I’m just like you.  Once he decides something though, he’s ready to go ahead and do it right away!  Did you put it back on him and ask him what his thoughs were on it?  Maybe he was thinking you would move there sooner or something like that?   How often do you 2 talk?  Have you started talking about the serious things (do you want kids, how about finances, where do you want to eventually live, etc)?  


Post # 5
4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It sounds like it might be too early to float the marriage/engagement topic around. What with you having met face to face twice and not having talked about marriage or kids. Every relationship is diferent I know, but I know Darling Husband would have had a really tough time talking about a wedding date if we hadn’t talked about things like marriage and kids yet.

Post # 6
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I would agree that it sounds like it might be a bit too early to talk about seriously moving there. While it’s great that he’s thinking about the future, maybe a concrete future is a little too soon for him. In his mind, setting a time frame, means that it cannot be changed ever, and if your needs or relationship changes, it’s still a set in stone date. I’d lay off a bit, and re-approach the topic with him in another six months. Of course, you can still “plan” on your own 😉

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