(Closed) does he want to get married or does he not?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5170 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

@confused123:  Okay…this was very hard to read but it sounds to me like he wants your ring, when it comes time to proposing, to be a surprise (or he has already bought or picked something out and is a bit worried now that you have picked something out you like AND won’t like what he has picked out/designed or already bought). Some men (and women) are just more traditional that way and prefer the ring to be picked out exclusively by the proposer. Despite what WB and some other sites may have you think, not ALL women (or men) pick out their own rings, and the women who HAVE picked out their rings have usually discussed it with their partner and chosen a ring before a proposal or after. 

Since he has taken you to stores I am guessing he has an idea of what you like and is going for something similar to what you have expressed you like.

Now, the whole ring thing to me is totally independent of whether or not he wants to get married. I would kindly suggest that if you are going to get married you should be able to certainly TALK about marriage, though nothing in your post indicates to me he does not want to get married?

Do you not believe him that he is saving for a ring?


Post # 4
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@RayKay:  Agree with everything you said.

To the original poster, I know that sometimes it’s ok to move fast, but just be careful. Make sure this is what you really want and that you know your boyfriend really well. I hope you’ve discussed topics like parenting, religion, money, etc.

It’s great that he loves your daughter… but make sure you talk about whether you want more kids, if you’re both wanting to stay in the area you currently live, college savings, etc. There are so many things that go along w. having a child already.

Congrats, though – it sounds like you found a really nice guy 🙂

Post # 5
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sopunds like either: A.   he already has the ring and needed a way to not have you suddenly expecting that new ring you saw.


B.   He doesn’t want to marry you, ever.

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