Post # 1
I am so confused…My fiance and i are getting married in april, and also we are building a house as we speak, and was planning on having a household shower or housewarming party whatever it may be called in oct. because our house should be almost done by then, but i was doing some research and i got so confused because we was planning on having our party/shower thing for our new home at a local party rental area, in our community. But it seems like most people have it in their home. But we wont be able to because our house will not be completed, and we still need alot of stuff so thats why we was having the party/shower….so whatt should i do???
Post # 3
You can definitely have a “house shower” at your local party rental space. It’s totally understandable that your house won’t be ready for a party in October–hence the reason for the shower. A housewarming, however, would be held at your house once everything is done.
Post # 4
I don’t think you or any members of your immediate family are supposed to throw a shower if it’s for the wedding and I’ve never heard of a house shower. A housewarming party is a completley separtate thing but yes most people have them at their home because the whole point is for people to visit and get a tour of your new place and “warm” your home with their company. You also don’t register for a housewarming party and I would not expect gifts to be given at the party, some people may bring a small something or give a card with a small amount of cash.
You will get tons of things for the house for your wedding too so don’t forget that!
Post # 5
Thanks so much. I was so confused. Im getting stressed out, between building the house, planning the house shower, and then the wedding in april, and then working fulltime, going to school and raising a 2year old boy. Seems like no energy…and not enough time. But any ideas for games and decorations would be helpful as well. And i dont think i need to do register for gifts just let the people bring what think we need…what do you think?
Post # 6
@ndb1206: I dont think that you normally register for a housewarming.
Post # 7
I am with Carpie…a housewarming party should be held at your house, and you should not register for or expects gifts. Maybe like, wine or candles or something, but that’s it.
A wedding shower is a good opportunity to receive some of the gifts on your wedding shower registry, but I am confused by your wording. You say we were planning on renting a place for the shower- you’re not hosting your own shower, are you? Because I don’t really think that’s advised. Whoever is hosting your wedding shower should just put out the word of where you are registered. I have to say, I have never heard of a “house shower”. As wedding gifts tend to be household items anyways that seems rather redundant.
Post # 8
I would hold off on any sort of house party until you can do a house warming event at your home. In fact, I’ve never even heard of a house shower, unless it was in place of a bridal shower.
Usually, bridal showers are meant to gift the bride things her and her future husband will need for their home, so it’s pretty much the same thing, and very common to have it at another venue besides your home (often, other members if the family will host it). You’ll probably get lots of stuff at your shower, and then, presents for your wedding as well, or enough cash to purchase a lot of the things you need yourselves.
A housewarming party is one that you host, and invite people you know to see your new home. Gifts are usually given, but you don’t create a registry for them (I mean, I’m sure people do, but I wouldn’t recommend it, especially since it’ll be so close to your wedding). People might bring you a congratulatory bottle of wine or some nice candles, but overall, the purpose is to unveil your new home.
Post # 9
I am confused about why you would want to have a house shower or house warming party before your home is complete. Since the house will be almost done, wouldn’t it be better to wait and then have a regular housewarming party at your home? It will be less stressful because there are usually no games or decorations needed. Most of the ones that I have been to included a tour of the new digs, some finger foods, and a house blessing…and of course gifts if anyone brought any.
EDIT: Miss Chapstick beat me to the punch =)
Post # 10
What in heck is a house shower? Are other people supposed to furnish your house? I think you wait until your home is complete, then you have a housewarming party, but I don’t think people bring gifts to those… like maybe wine.
Post # 11
I’m with most of the PPs. I have no clue what a house shower is. I’ve been to many housewarming parties and usually bring a bottle of wine or flowers or some decorative gift for the new home. I’ve never heard of anyone registering for one though. And they’ve always been at the new home. Why don’t you just register for things you want for the new house for your bridal shower/wedding?
Post # 12
I’ve never heard of a house shower. I don’t think you should expect gifts for it either (especially should not register). I’ve been to a ton of housewarming parties or given gifts to friends who’ve recently moved in and I always give a nice bottle of wine. Most people don’t bring anything at all. It’s normally just an excuse to have a party and to let everyone see the new place.
Post # 13
“we still need alot of stuff so thats why we was having the party/shower”
This is the problem with the house shower. People are going to see it as a gift grab instead of a houswarming party. (It also might be a burden on guests if they attend a house shower, then bridal shower and wedding?)
A housewarming party is something you throw for friends, not a chance for friends to give you more gifts.
Post # 14
Wouldn’t it be better to wait until the house is complete to get stuff for it? Where are you going to put everything? I also think it needs to be a wedding shower instead of a house shower. People don’t usually give gifts at house warmings, but you would get household items at a wedding shower.
Post # 15
Thats why i put *CONFUSED*, seeing i was confused…..come to think of it a Bridal Shower and what i call a House Shower is the same thing….and no im not throwing one for myself and my fiance, my sister was, and she feels she has to ok everything through me. But i wasnt expecting any gifts at the wedding. She was probbaly just throwing one shower, but called it a house shower, to focus mainly on gifts for the house….so sorry for the confusion people…..
Post # 16
Well that makes sense 🙂 A house-themed bridal shower.
I’d wait awhile on anything – once you’ve settled into your house, have a fun housewarming party / open house / whatever, with no mention of gifts.
The bridal shower should probably happen closer to the wedding anyway? I’d wait until sometime after the new year.
Doesn’t sound like you really expect gifts, so awesome. I’d just buy what I really need and hope to get some of the things I really want closer to the wedding.