Post # 1
So me(18) have been with my bf(19) 2 years In a month. The problem is I just don’t feel the same as I did when we met and it makes me so upset. Like he was the sweetest guy in the world ; he’d make spontaneous plans for us, was excited to see me, we saw each other every free time we had, and then we would speak all day everyday and he was interested in the conversation. He went out his way to impress me and that showed me he really loved me.
In this moment of time everything is okay we hardly EVER have arguments anymore, we talk everyday but it’ll be maybe 20 min phone call or FaceTime in the day; or we would fall asleep on the phone together or we’d text through out the day very slowly . When we see each other it is great. He makes me laugh all the time, we would go shopping and to eat or cinema. So technically I guess technically our relationship seems stable and good.
Where I need help is even though we do those things we do now it’s just been cut down to when I first met him we where with each other 24/7 , now we see each other I’d say once every 1-2 weeks. And speak once a day. I feel because the attention has been cut down I just feel kind of like he dosnt love me the same and I don’t know how to adapt to him texting me back hours later ? I feel he’s just there now and I don’t know it makes me upset. Like he can go a week and a half without seeing me ; he’d probably go out his way after a week and a half/ two weeks to make plans with me ? Otherwise if I wanna see him a 2nd-3rd time in a week it would be me saying I’m coming to see you . I just don’t feel his enthusiasm anymore In the relationship I heard when relationships age this does happen but am I just to clinchy and thinking negatively or is it really him falling out of love with me😥
Post # 2
You’re 18, why are you on a wedding website?
Post # 3
Things are slowing down like they usually do in a relationship. But keep the spark and by doing that talk to him. And tell him how you feel
Post # 4
I obviously don’t know what your boyfriend is thinking, but I had the same boyfriend throughout the 4 years in high school. By the time I was 18 and graduating, I was a completely different person and we just grew apart. The only way you’ll know is if you talk to him.
Post # 5
Soooo this is likely your first relationship do I have that right? Girl, this nothing new….you’re growing apart. You should probably ask him what’s up so you can get the truth out of him. Either way its no reflection on you, its just life and its what happens at this stage in lfe. Sure you’ll hurt for a bit but you’ll move on. Men can be such cowards about this but you need to learn to see the writing on the wall and take action for yourself. Also, let go of the clingyness because noone finds that attractive. Good luck.
Post # 6
alexissky : Are you both in college or working?
Post # 7
The relationship has run it’s course. If you’re only seeing each other once a week when you’re not LDR, he is choosing not to be with you.
It’s time to have an adult discussion with him and confirm where you stand.
I’m sorry, Bee, but at your age, relationships come and they go. And that is as it should be. You’re learning about the kinds of qualities you want in your future life partner and the kind of relationship that you someday want to have.
Post # 8
I could have written this post 15 years ago. You’re growing apart, which is totally normal at this age and experience level. Very few people will end up married for life to their high school boyfriend or girlfriend. He’s fading out instead of just breaking up with you completely. Likely he’s hoping you’ll do it for him. I know it’s painful, but you will get through it.
Post # 9
This might just be the relationship running it’s course. Talk to him, see whatsw up. Express your concerns and get his input.While it is normal for things to slow down from the start of a relationship, this is a bit excessive of one, which is concerning.
I started dating my now husband at 17, and we would see each other 2-3x a week, even after I graduated high school (he was still in it) and we lived in the same area. At 19, we went 200+ miles long distance, but we still made the effort to call/text every day and visit once every two weeks. During the summer, when we’d be in the same area again, we’d see each other twice a week again.
Eventually we moved in together, got engaged and married, but the point is we still communicated and saw each other much more than you are now with your bf, which is why I would be concerned.
Post # 10
You are growing up & apart. This relationship has run it course. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t real and that doesn’t mean you weren’t in love. A successful relationship can end.
Post # 11
Speaking to someone all day every day would be my definition of hell. I’m not into clingy. You may be growing apart, he may just be maturing to a point where he recognizes that incessant communication isn’t a hallmark of a good relationship.