- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
We’re going to have a wedding party per my fiance’s request. He’d prefer one person each, but I’d feel bad leaving out my other two close friends, so we might do three on each side. He’s fine with either, but is set on having his brother stand next to him.
Thing is, these girls don’t know each other. I don’t have a group of girlfriends or just one “best” friend, but individual friends who each provide me with their own valuable brand of friendship and support. I’m an introvert, so I’m not a phone chatty person always talking to these friends and hanging out every week.
Also, I think that each person we invite is special and if we need help with something in particular, most would love to help even without the title of “wedding party attendant.” I feel like it’s silly to ask some friends to stand up there with me when I feel like EVERYONE is there “standing up” with us. Why single out a couple of people? What if I’m not friends with them in five or 10 years?
I’m an introvert, too, so the idea of having three bridesmaids spins my head. It just seems like too much and a potentially tense, stressful situation. I have no doubt that they’d all get along though, but I think I might just always be on edge.
I know who I would ask if we decided on one person for each side. She’s friends with both of us, will always be a close friend and it just seems appropriate. But she has a best friend and I’m afraid of embarrassing myself by considering her a closer friend than she considers me. I’m also afraid of hurting my other two closest friends’ feelings.
I’m just confused about all of this. I think it would help for me to hear the thoughts, opinions and experiences of other women who have been in a similar position.
Do/did you have a wedding party of people who don’t know each other? How did it work out?
How did you get past feeling uncomfortable asking friends to be in the wedding party?
Did you choose to just have one bridesmaid, even if you didn’t have one best friend but a few close friends? Was there any fallout or hurt feelings with the other close friends?