confused about gifts

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The people I am buying gifts for:

BMs

GMs

Parents of Bride 

Parents of Groom

Readers

Flower Girl

Ring Bearer

Witnesses (who sign our Ketubah)

Anyone who is performing some duty for your wedding without pay should be given in a gift in my opinion. Not sure what the etiquette here is though. I’d say, anyone who you’d like to thank for doing something special though is a good rule of thumb.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My list is similar:

BMs

GMs

Both sets of parents

Flower girl

Ring Bearer

Officiant (he’s a family friend so we aren’t paying him)

Ushers

We are having a friend sing a solo so she’s getting one too.

As MrsWBS said, I think the rule is that you should probably get at least a small gift for anyone who’s doing some kind of work without getting paid.

 

I have no idea what I’m getting them yet though!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely get a fun gift card or even give cash to the singer and organist. Imagine how much a tip would be if they were charging and maybe gift that amount. (Our organist and soloist both charge $150.)

We will get something small for our readers – no idea what yet, but something very small along with a heart felt thank you card. We’ll also give $20 to each altar boy/girl.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, I was thinking of gift cards also. MY FH just told me he wants to get the GM’s tix for a baseball game.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve read that I really nice gift for readers is a hardcover copy of the book they’re reading out of, with a personal note.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@angelaandchet:  I am no ettiquette expert but I do not think you’d have to get her an additional gift or at least not one of significant monetary value. it might be nice if you gave her a thoughtful card or something like that – personalized handkercheif whatever, especially if you are getting gifts for the grandparents. our grandparents are getting their corsage and that’s it.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@angelaandchet:  I’ll be honest. I would probably still get her a gift out of respect for her position. It doesn’t have to be expensive. As PP suggested, a simple handkerchief is cute. If you want to be super super super low budget, you can do a print of your engagement photo in a nice frame (you can get like $10 or less nice ones at Home Goods, Target, Ikea, etc.). Another option is if you don’t have engagement photos, you can do maybe one of your invitation or something.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

my list is short Then I guess.. Our parents wouldn’t accept gifts from us for our wedding day.. So we only do:

BM’s

GM’s

MC

 

not giving the officiant anything as we have to pay him.. 

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