Post # 1
So I know I need to get gifts for my BM’s and the GM’s. But beyond that, I’m not sure. I have readers, and our pastors son is singing a solo for us, and his.daughter is playing the organ. Am I supposed to get these people.gifts? And if so, any idea what? I’m completely list, and could really use some help.
Post # 3
The people I am buying gifts for:
Parents of Bride
Parents of Groom
Witnesses (who sign our Ketubah)
Anyone who is performing some duty for your wedding without pay should be given in a gift in my opinion. Not sure what the etiquette here is though. I’d say, anyone who you’d like to thank for doing something special though is a good rule of thumb.
Post # 4
that’s kind of what I thought, but I have no clue what to get.
Post # 5
My list is similar:
Both sets of parents
Officiant (he’s a family friend so we aren’t paying him)
We are having a friend sing a solo so she’s getting one too.
As MrsWBS said, I think the rule is that you should probably get at least a small gift for anyone who’s doing some kind of work without getting paid.
I have no idea what I’m getting them yet though!
Post # 6
Definitely get a fun gift card or even give cash to the singer and organist. Imagine how much a tip would be if they were charging and maybe gift that amount. (Our organist and soloist both charge $150.)
We will get something small for our readers – no idea what yet, but something very small along with a heart felt thank you card. We’ll also give $20 to each altar boy/girl.
Post # 7
Yeah, I was thinking of gift cards also. MY FH just told me he wants to get the GM’s tix for a baseball game.
Post # 8
Ok, so gift cards might be a good idea.
Post # 9
I’ve read that I really nice gift for readers is a hardcover copy of the book they’re reading out of, with a personal note.
Post # 10
So I’m curious about the parents gifts. Between the 2 of us we have 1 parent. Both of our fathers were completely inactive in our lives, and my mother passed a few years ago. So as for a gift for his mom, well his grandparents (both deceased) raised him. His mother is coming to the wedding, but we have already bought her plane ticket from Florida to NY, we were going to buy her a dress, but she needed the money so we gave her that instead. She will be staying at our home. I’m just curious is there a reason I should also buy this woman a gift? Not to be rude, but her only child is soon to be married. I thought she should get US a gift.
Can someone please help me out here. Am I missing something?
Post # 11
@angelaandchet: I am no ettiquette expert but I do not think you’d have to get her an additional gift or at least not one of significant monetary value. it might be nice if you gave her a thoughtful card or something like that – personalized handkercheif whatever, especially if you are getting gifts for the grandparents. our grandparents are getting their corsage and that’s it.
Post # 12
@bluemartini16 all the grandparents are deceased so no gifts there.
Post # 13
@angelaandchet: I’ll be honest. I would probably still get her a gift out of respect for her position. It doesn’t have to be expensive. As PP suggested, a simple handkerchief is cute. If you want to be super super super low budget, you can do a print of your engagement photo in a nice frame (you can get like $10 or less nice ones at Home Goods, Target, Ikea, etc.). Another option is if you don’t have engagement photos, you can do maybe one of your invitation or something.
Post # 13
my list is short Then I guess.. Our parents wouldn’t accept gifts from us for our wedding day.. So we only do:
not giving the officiant anything as we have to pay him..