(Closed) confused about head table vs sweetheart

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

you can do lots of variations of this, with a sweetheart table you get to haqve dinner just the two of you. i have been to weddings wher i was at the head table and the dates were all together and some where there were two wedding party tables and one that had the bride and groom, but they were all round and regular tables.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Every time I’ve been at a wedding with a head table, the dates sat separately.  I don’t think it’s a big deal…often the dates have gotten to know each other anyway b/c they were left alone while the Bridal Party was off doing Bridal Party stuff.

You can also do a "family" head table and have the rest of your Bridal Party seated amongst the guests.  That’s what we’re going to do.  Except when it’s family, I feel a bit odd as a Bridesmaid or Best Man sitting at a head table so I kind of prefer that.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I think your guests will be staring at you at one point or another regardless on where you sit. You are the reason they’re there after all! 🙂

I have heard a lot of people complain about the bridal party tables because then when someone in the bridal party has a family of their own, they would usually prefer to sit with their own spouse or children and spend time with them.

We’re having just a sweetheart table and letting everyone else sit wherever they want. I think it’ll be nice to have a little quiet time with my new husband and enjoying our first meal as a married couple.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

If the Bridal Party is at the head table and its a long table at the front of the room, dates are sat seperately and yes…you can’t talk to everyone. We opted for sweetheart table so that our Bridal Party can sit with their dates, relax and enjoy themselves. Also, the sweetheart table gives us a breather from everyone and everything. We’re also going to try to visit every table during dinner so by not having the Bridal Party at a head table we won’t be leaving them alone awkwardly. Do whatever works for you!

Post # 7
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Newbee

It depends on what you want… do you want the pretty table with you and hubby and ONLY your attendants? (Looks good in pictures)

…I’ve seen it done sooo many different ways! I’ve been a bridesmaid a lot, and the way I HATED the most, was putting the bridal party at the head table all next to each other (and none of us really knew each other). Although, the last wedding I was at, the couple actually had mostly "couples" as bridesmaids and groomsmen, so we were coupled up with our significant other, and the two (one guy, one girl) who didn’t have their significant other, just had them sit at the head table… it was ok, but I could tell that it was slightly weird for the "non-bridal party" guy and girl. They didn’t want to sit down…. I don’t think I saw either one of them actually at the table…. they were both very shy about it. I guess it would be a little awkward….

For my wedding, we decided on a sweetheart table, so that my hubby and I could just talk intimately about how we felt about the ceremony and how everything looked, etc… it was very nice… plus, all of our bridal party members had dates (who weren’t in the bridal party), and we didn’t want the dates to have to sit alone. We let our bridal party sit where ever they wanted to, and they loved it! Everyone was comfy, it was a great time (not stuffy)- no complaints!

Oh, and yeah… it’s always a bit awkward being the Bride and Groom- everyone stares at you, the whole time! HAHAHA. Just remember, they’re staring because you just look so stunning, and it’s so much fun to watch a newly wed couple- so in love **sigh**! lol.

….Hope this helps!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I may be going against people, but I’ve been a bridesmaid multiple times and hated that my boyfriend had to sit with my parents.  

The last wedding I was in, they had 1 table,  where the bride, groom, Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man sat as well as any siblings (and their guests).  There was 1 table on either side of the Bride and Grooms table, where the remaining bridal party and their dates sat.  I liked that and so did my Fiance.

I’m not sure if this is an option for you, but our reception place does a non-traditional head table.  Basically it’s a rectangular table but people sit all around the table.  No one will be sitting directly in front of us but around the rest of the table will be the bridal party and their dates.  It comes out to be about 20 ppl, but we’ll get to talk to our bridal party and their dates which we are very happy about.  But with people not sitting directly in front of us, our parents and other people will still be able to see us.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

My fiance and I are doing a sweetheart table with our wedding party and their dates at a few tables around our family tables.  I was at a wedding recently that my fiance was in – and while I knew the people that I was sitting with, some of the wedding party’s dates didn’t and it was pretty awkward – if I didn’t know anyone, I would feel so separated!  So, that’s why we’re doing it this way.  I also think it makes it easier for people to approach you if they want to talk to you before they leave or whatever – less walking around greeting for you and your hubby!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are sitting with our parents and siblings. I agree with your reservations for both the sweatheart and head tables. I know we won’t be sitting much anyway, and when we do, I’d rather us be with our families. That way our wedding party can sit with their dates and/or families.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I keep going back and forth about what we’ll do – have a big table where the Bridal Party can be with their dates (but not all just on one side) or a sweetheart table. It does seem strange to me to have everybody on one display side of a table no matter what you do.

The weddings I’ve been to in recent years were all as a guest of my Fiance, who was a groomsman or best man.  I have ALWAYS been stuck at a table of other dates of wedding party people and it just sucks, in my opinion.  Each time I wondered why I even bothered to accept the invitation bc it essentially felt like I was going as a single guest.  If I had known people, it’d be different, but if you don’t, it’s just kind of torturous and boring.  Some peopl emight be really comfortable with it, but I was definitely not.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We are going to have a sweetheart table. I REALLY don’t care for the look of a king’s court table (head table) and we know that we are going to be scarfing down our food to go mingle with our guests anyway so we won’t be at our table for very long. Our bridal party will have their own table… or tables… we haven’t decided that yet.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I personally did not want to make anyone uncomfortable by sitting people who did not know each together, so we decided that our "head" table would be a round one with a few of our closest friends and their dates,  as opposed to separating the bridal party from their dates.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well I know that I want Fiance and I to sit at a table together with just us!

His best man is married and my maid of honor is my little sister, so she would be bored and I’m allowing her to invite a couple friends … so she will want to hang out with them at the reception. 

Im excited for us to sit by ourselves at the reception! Not that we will actually be alone, Im sure everyone will surround us! Lol.

Post # 15
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Newbee

I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and I really liked what the couple did. The bridal party sat at reserved tables and the bride and groom didn’t come down immediatly after the wedding. They ate alone in a room upstairs to get a little along time, it was really sweet. When they came in they did their first dance, it was beautiful. Not perfect for everyeone, but it’s good for some

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