(Closed) Confused about honeymoon. Help?

posted 5 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Where should we go for our honeymoon? (Maybe say why, below, too! :) )
    Are you crazy? Paris, Rome, and Venice for 12 days... this is a no brainer! : (45 votes)
    52 %
    I prefer unlimited drinks, food, and no jet lag. Call up Sandals or Secrets and stay for 10 days! : (31 votes)
    36 %
    Honeymoons are best for a week of luxury. Contact the Ritz Carlton ASAP. (Aruba? St. Thomas?) : (11 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 31
    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    crackktheskyy:  Thanks for starting this thread!  I don’t have any good suggestions since I’m in a very similar predicament.  FI and I have never been on a real vacation either and even though we’ve traveled together many times before, it’s normally to visit family or go to conventions.  We haven’t planned our honeymoon yet since we won’t be able to go on one until 6 months to up to a year after the wedding, but we can’t even decide on where to go.

    FI’s dream is to go to Europe. We’ve both never been and while I’d love to go, I see Europe as more of a vacation and not a honeymoon.  I’d rather go somewhere to relax at a nice beach or a cruise, but Fiance is completely against it.  He’d go bored out of his mind and he feels like it’s pointless to pay money to just lie down somewhere. Lol!  

    I think a good compromise is either a European or Mediterranean cruise, or even Hawaii, which was a beach destination that Fiance was surprisingly not against.  I think it’s because there’s so many activities and islands to visit.

    Post # 32
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I voted for a week of luxury in the Ritz Carlton. You only have 12 days, and you will lose three to travel: one for the actual flight day, one for the next day where you will sleep a lot and one for the flight back. And, even if you can manage to sleep on a long-haul flight, you won’t sleep well as you will be sleeping on a seat, unless you are in business class. It’s unfortunate that the vacation allowances in the US are so low, as if you lived in Europe you would have been able to save up all your holidays for the year and take 21 days. In most European countries employees are entitled to a statutory 21 days plus the 9 or 10 public holidays a year.

    I am going on about length of time because I think these long-haul honeymoons need to be at least 17 days. Otherwise, it is just too exhausting. Honeymoons are meant to allow plenty of time for lie-ins, romantic strolls, time by the beach, time in bed :), romantic meals and generally a slow luxurious pace. If you are going to all those cities in such a short amount of time I don’t think you’ll get that. 

    We are from Europe, and we went on a long-haul honeymoon, but we were in Asia for nearly 3 weeks. We did not do much city hopping. Instead, we lay by the pool/beach, had leisurely brunches, went out for romantic meals, chatted lots and had a lot of bedroom time. It was like being in heaven (literally) for three weeks and I will never forget it. It was pure paradise. To this day, it remains one of my life’s most cherished memories and I cannot see any other holiday ever topping it.

    Plus, speaking as a European, those cities are nice and all, but they do not compare to the luxury of a honeymoon-style resort.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 1 month ago by  Bainise2013.
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    Post # 33
    2517 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    crackktheskyy:  The one piece of advice that everyone and their brother has given us about honeymoons is to do something relaxing for the days right after the wedding, because you will crash.  My SIL doesn’t remember the flight or getting to South Africa for her honeymoon.  

    So if you’re going to Europe and you’re going to do some relaxing, I’d do it at the start (or better yet, bookend the trip – 2 days to start, a day or two to end, and all the sightseeing/touring you can handle in the middle.)  I’d think that would be even more important to your Fiance if travelling wipes him out.  Also, if this is your first trip together, you want it to be easy.  

    I have done a lot of trips where I stay only a night or two in a hotel before moving on.  It does get exhausting and I always seem to leave with a long list of places to do ‘next time’, because you just can’t get everything in. 

    We were going to Fiji, until we decided to buy a house.  Now we’re doing sun and ski.  We’re going to the Caribbean for 5 days at an AI and then off to Banff to ski for a week.  (We can’t do Europe.  We go every year and there are too many people we’d feel obligated to visit.  And we don’t want to visit on our honeymoon.) 

    Are Secrets and Sandals the only AI’s you’re considering?  IMO, they’re horribly overpriced for what they are.  There are a huge number of large resorts (if that’s what you want) with lots to do off resort and on, that are outside those two chains.  There’s also a number of smaller resorts and what not that are just as nice.  We are looking at a good sized resort, 5 stars or better, in a couple of destinations that we know have excellent off-resort day trips.  I am also someone who can’t lay by the beach all day.  I can spend a day deep sea fishing, ziplining, touring an island, and then hang at the resort the next day playing beach volleyball, swimming, reading a book for a bit, playing some tennis, getting in 9 holes of golf, grabbing some bikes and touring around, before getting ready for dinner.  So it’s essential that the resort we have has a lot to do.

    Post # 34
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    crackktheskyy:  Do Europe! I travelled to India a few months ago (17 hour flight – 11 hour time difference) and we had NO jet lag when we arrived. Your all excited for your trip and forget about the jet lag lol. On the way home that is a different story. An all inclusive is a lot easier to afford/get time off for afterward whereas Europe is not so easy. 

    Post # 35
    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’d say Europe all the way! For me personaly I don’t care for resorts or all inlusives so it is a no brainer. The only “problem” I see with you Europe itinerary is that it is too many cities, too far from each other for the time you have. 

    What about chosing only ONE city and spend your 12 days there? For exemple you could chose Paris, rent an appartment and spend all of your days there discovering all that city has to offer. I’ve been there 3 times (for a total of 18 days) and I there are still things I have yet to see! You could go to Versailles, make a day trip to Normandie, take your time in museums… Or you could also spend a couple of days in London (by taking the Eurostar fast train).

    You could do the same with Rome and do day trips in the back country or by the sea. I don’t you could spend 12 days in Venise though. 

    Cut on the travelling (paris-rome, rome-venise) and instead just chose one region you will be able to see in more depth. 

    Post # 36
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Bainise2013:  I disagree. You don’t really lose 3 days of travel and you don’t need 17 days for a long-haul honeymoon. Different people like different things, so I don’t think that blanket statements should be made about what a honeymoon is meant to be. Maybe that’s what it meant to be for you, but not everyone agrees.

    I would be completely bored with a honeymoon where my husband and I spent the majority of our time in a room or in bed. I could do that at home, why would I want to pay thousands of dollars to do that. But that’s just me. Maybe someone else would enjoy it. 

    My honeymoon was very go, go, go but it was one of our most cherished memories and I can’t see another trip topping it either, so to each their own. Just don’t assume that everyone wants a honeymoon like that and if they don’t have it then it isn’t what a honeymoon is supposed to be.

    Post # 38
    2517 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    crackktheskyy:  I’ve had a great time at RIU, I wasn’t a fan of the Grand Bahia in Jamaica, but the people I went with had been to others in other countries and thought it wasn’t up to their regular standards, so maybe it was just that resort.  I’ve been to some Sol Melia as well, they were fine, the location we went to was very quiet compared to others.  

    I also stayed at a B&B in Barbados that was awesome.  I cannot for the life of me remember what it was called, but I loved Barbados!  

    We are looking into the Excellence in Punta Cana for our sun honeymoon.  We looked at Sandals as well, but this looks more like us. 

    We looked at what they offered, in addition to what was available to do off resort (and how safe we felt off resort – though I have to admit, I’ve travelled through some places most people would think of as ‘dangerous’ and I’ve never felt unsafe while travelling.  But I know everyone has different comfort levels.) And we didn’t want to go where one of us has already been.  I’ve already visited a lot of the Carribbean and Central America, so it limited us!  

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