(Closed) Confused about shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Invite her.  You don’t want to start life with your new family with this lording over your head.

Same situation as you with my Mother-In-Law.  She did not throw a shower on their side of the family for my Darling Husband and I.  What a wonderful thing to do to welcome a new member of the family by honoring them at an event and introducing them to all the family yet to meet.  Oh well…  That has passed and I took the high road and am the better for it.  I vow to never treat any future DILs like the way I was treated.  Enjoy your shower and smile because you have a mom and sisters who support you and that is what counts!

Post # 5
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As my Dad used to say ” Whoever promised you that life would be fair?”

She may never reciprocate your generosity but you will have the satisfaction of knowing you did the right thing and didn’t give her another opportunity for criticism.

Post # 6
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Well, if she’s difficult now, not inviting her when she already knows about it might set off an explosion that can be seen from space…unfortunatley weddings carry a lot of family politics inside of these events.  And you never know, maybe you will see another side of her at this event…I married into a difficult family, and trust me, it took a few years to get all of the silliness sorted out, but I can tell you, the thing that saved me every time, was kindess, courtesy, and attention to the rules of etiquette, when you set that example for people who behave otherwise, they usually follow suit, because they probably didn’t know that was an option until you showed them.

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