Post # 1
I’m going to my SIL to be’s wedding shower soon, and having never been to a shower and not planning to have one myself, I’m not sure what appropriate gifts are?
I see some showers where the brides are receiving registry gifts (kitchenaid mixers, pots and pans, etc.) and others where they are getting lingerie, gift certificates, ets. What is the more appropriate gift? My Fiance and I were planning on buying off the registry for the wedding, if that makes a difference.
What was your favorite gift received at a shower?
Post # 3
something off of the registry or a gift certificate is good. Lingerie tends to be a bachlorette party thing if you do it at all – no one wants to open a lacey thong in front on grandma 🙂
Physical gift for shower. Cash/check for wedding seems to be the norm around here
Post # 4
I attended my SIL wedding shower last year and I did something “fun” versus the traditional shower gift. I bought 7 different pairs of underwear (no thongs but all very cute and tasteful) and matched it to this poem with a few small revisions. I attached them all to a small rope using bows to attach the underwear with the part of the poem that corresponded to that pair of underwear. I then put them in a decorated box with a piece hanging out saying “Pull Here”. As she pulled out each pair she held them up and read the poem. It was a HUGE hit and she said to me after it was a nice change from opening pans and that she loved it. As a SIL I think it’s okay to do something fun! Here’s the link to the poem! Good Luck!
Post # 5
Something off the registry or a gift certificate for the shower. I’d be creeped out if someone bought me lingerie or underwear.
Post # 6
You should do registry items. I did lingerie once but it was a shower/bachelorette party. Usually lingerie is for bachelorette parties, unless they specifically tell you that is what the theme of the shower is.
Definitely bring a gift (not cash) because part of the party is when the bride opens all the gifts.
Post # 7
Honestly? The best gift I got was a box of thongs from my bm who is a manager at VS. One thong had our initials on the back in sequins with a heart in between. Stuff like that dosn’t bother me, even though it was a surprise. I still got registry items though and I liked those as well.
Post # 8
lingerie should only be given at bachelorette parties. showers are usually for families, and i would be mortified if i had to open up thongs in front of them! the whole point of doing a gift registry is so you know what the couple wants for their shower!
Post # 9
you can’t go wrong with anything from the registry!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Buy from the registry. The couple spent a lot of time choosing things they legitimately want.
Usually, when people bring lingerie, it’s because the shower specifically had a lingerie theme.
For a shower, a physical gift is better than a gift certificate (or money) because unlike the wedding, the even is specifically structured around gifts.
Post # 11
I would actually prefer lingerie haha. But I don’t know if people will be keen to give that or not. My groom would prefer it too 😉
Post # 12
I would be really embarrassed to open up lingerie/underwear at a shower.
Post # 13
@NewYorkLady: Right. It depends on the bride-to-be. Afterwards, my mom said that she was horrified for me when I opened up that box. I was like, “Why?”.
The safest way to go is with the registry though.
Post # 14
My circle generally does registry gifts at the shower & a small lingerie gift at the bachelorette.
Post # 15
Sometimes showers have themes. You can have a “normal” shower (registry gifts, gift cards, cash, etc), a lingerie shower (lingerie/sexy things), a calendar shower or around the clock shower (gifts themed on time of year/holidays or time of day, ie breakfast, bed time, etc). If you’re not going to a shower with an explicit theme, play it safe and go off the registry or get a gift card/cash.
Post # 16
I enjoyed getting lingerie and household things at both my showers (with my mom, mil, and grandmothers). My friend had a shower recently, and I just asked her if she preferred “honeymoon attire” or household things.