(Closed) Confused about wedding party..need an outsider’s opinion!

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why don’t you have all the men just enter from the side, then have the ladies walk by themselves? Or alternate between a bridesmaid and a groomsman walking separately? Like, your Maid/Matron of Honor would walk, then his best man, then your next Maid/Matron of Honor, then his next groomsman, etc. My friend did that because she had a longer song, and it looked fine.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I guess it depends on your people and their temperaments, but if objectively speaking, I wouldn’t bat an eye if a married couple were “separated” for walking down the aisle if the husband had special Bridesmaid or Best Man duties to do.

If you really don’t want to separate them, there’s no rule that just because he’s Bridesmaid or Best Man means he has to be last down the aisle OR that he MUST walk with the Maid/Matron of Honor. If he walks with his wife, then he can simply split off and stand in the appopriate spot next to the groom so he can hand off the rings and all that once he gets to the altar. I highly doubt anyone in the audience will even notice.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I personally would never want someone to line me up in a wedding w/o my husband or in other words my husband “with another woman”. I know as brides we only see what looks good, but think about their feelings too. or do the single line-up as suggested,

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Obviously sammers is seriously considering others feelings – hence the post. Plenty of alternatives here. I def think you should choose the ‘guy walking 4th’ instead of ‘high school guy’ if you’re having doubts. I really don’ t think it matters at which stage he actually walks down the aisle, as long as he performs his duties and is situated next to the groom for the rest of the wedding. I think he may be happier to walk down with his wife though and probably the dancing as well (if you’re doing that), otherwise maybe walk down in intervals as suggested by Triciaanddazzling.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m having my MOH/sister walk down the aisle with her groomsman husband, and having FI’s best man walk down the aisle with FI’s bridesmaid sister. I don’t think it’s a big deal and that best man & Maid/Matron of Honor HAVE to walk down together. I’d rather them be comfortable and with the person they want to be with.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I definitely would not give any honorary titles just because you don’t want to “split up” a couple. They’ll be walking together for a few seconds (or not at all if you like any other the alternatives given.) Or, you could have the couples walk together and just get in the right place when they come to the front. Don’t worry, I’m sure no one will be upset! 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

A friend had the same thing in her wedding. She had BMs and GMs enter separately and then the ones that were couples walked out together. It looked fine IMO.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Ok.  This is probably going to come across as really mean but I don’t intend to be and I’m sorry in advance.

I really don’t understand the problem.  If you want Groomsmen #4 to be Best Man.  Then have him as Best Man.  Why does he need to walk with his wife (they’re old enough to walk without each other I assume)?  Why does he need to walk with anyone?  In fact, why does he need to walk full stop?

Maybe it’s a UK thing, and we don’t have groomsmen, but the Best Man NEVER walks in.  He’s supposed to be there for the groom, to support him.  To stand next to him whilst he waits for his bride and settle his nerves.  Can the men not just be up front at the start?

I wish I “got” this groomsmen thing sometimes.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I definitely don’t think you should be choosing Bridesmaid or Best Man according to who can walk with who. Have your Fiance choose the Bridesmaid or Best Man he wants and you can figure out the logistics later on. Most weddings I’ve been to, the groomsman haven’t even walked in, they’ve come in with the groom from a side entrance and waited at the front of the church or other venue. So, that solves half the problem. When it comes to walking out, would it be that big a deal to have BM#4 step out of line to walk out with her husband? Personally, I think that people in wedding parties would understand not walking out with a spouse if the spouse was Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor, but maybe that is just me.

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