(Closed) Confused about what to do, what i want, what others want..

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t put off starting your lives together for the wedding.  Maybe have something really small now and put your energies into a honeymoon tour – go see the family as newlyweds!  Pick the most convenient location for the most people, and then go see the rest.


Just an idea 🙂

Post # 4
17 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

i think you need to do what is best for you and your fiance. If having a small wedding away is best do that, and maybe do a small function in the middle ( dont know the locations of yours and his family)

rememebr this day is about the 2 of you and yes it would be amazing to have everyone there but even if you invited everyone they may not make it.

Be a happy bride and do whats best for YOU

Post # 5
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@busybride215:  We are kind of in the same boat only my immediate family has the means to travel, it’s the aunts, uncles, cousins and close friends that don’t. So we are have the wedding here but also going back to where I am from later in the year, kind of like the Honeymoon tour, and having a VERY casual cook out/reception there. 

I am giving everyone the option of coming here to our wedding but if they can’t do it or don’t want to do it then they have the option to wait for the cook out.

Just remember that you won’t be able to please everyone and like the PP said, don’t put your lives on hold for a wedding.


Good luck! 🙂


Post # 6
29 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013

I love the cruise idea and there are options on most cruises to broadcast the ceremony live. So everyone could watch! Also for anyone that is willing to travel and can afford it, I would let them. Have a party the night before you leave, and cruises allow anyone to come on board for a ceremony and then they have to get off(unless they are also going on the cruise) before it leaves port.

Post # 7
7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

You will not please everyone, so no need driving yourself crazy thinking that there is perfect solution. Do what you feel is best for you and FH first and foremost.


Post # 8
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

I went through something VERY similar. Our solution was to have the wedding here where we live, and my family who could afford it flew here. We helped a couple family members with the cost of their airfare. And it meant my husband’s whole family, his family friends, and our friends who live here were able to come.

In the end, almost all of our loved ones could make it. But if some hadn’t been able to make it and all lived in the same city, I would’ve been happy to plan a low-key backyard reception in that city, so we could celebrate our new marriage with them and so they wouldn’t feel left out.

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