Post # 1
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Blushing bee
Hey bees, So Fiance and I have been engaged for 1 1/2years now. We’ve been putting off getting married, because we aren’t really financially stable. We thought about doing a small wedding that would cost very little, but could still be nice.
His family is all around where we live, mine however is across the country from us, so all my family would have to travel if we had a wedding here, my family doesn’t really have a lot of money, so the cost of traveling could be an issue, if we have it there all of his family would havee to travel, as well as us. My grandparents are unable to travel due to health reasons, and so if we have it here they can’t come.
It just sucks because i want everyone there, and no matter how we do it, it won’t happen. Then we thought lets just get married on a cruise or something just us. But i don’t want to make people mad. My sisters have already expressed that they want to be there for my wedding, but to be honest i’m kind of over it, i just want to get married and have it be done.
I guess i’m just looking for advice. If anyone has gone through anything similar or how you would do things?
Post # 3
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Busy bee
Don’t put off starting your lives together for the wedding. Maybe have something really small now and put your energies into a honeymoon tour – go see the family as newlyweds! Pick the most convenient location for the most people, and then go see the rest.
Just an idea 🙂
Post # 4
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Newbee
i think you need to do what is best for you and your fiance. If having a small wedding away is best do that, and maybe do a small function in the middle ( dont know the locations of yours and his family)
rememebr this day is about the 2 of you and yes it would be amazing to have everyone there but even if you invited everyone they may not make it.
Be a happy bride and do whats best for YOU
Post # 5
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Worker bee
@busybride215: We are kind of in the same boat only my immediate family has the means to travel, it’s the aunts, uncles, cousins and close friends that don’t. So we are have the wedding here but also going back to where I am from later in the year, kind of like the Honeymoon tour, and having a VERY casual cook out/reception there.
I am giving everyone the option of coming here to our wedding but if they can’t do it or don’t want to do it then they have the option to wait for the cook out.
Just remember that you won’t be able to please everyone and like the PP said, don’t put your lives on hold for a wedding.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 6
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Newbee
I love the cruise idea and there are options on most cruises to broadcast the ceremony live. So everyone could watch! Also for anyone that is willing to travel and can afford it, I would let them. Have a party the night before you leave, and cruises allow anyone to come on board for a ceremony and then they have to get off(unless they are also going on the cruise) before it leaves port.
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
You will not please everyone, so no need driving yourself crazy thinking that there is perfect solution. Do what you feel is best for you and FH first and foremost.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
I went through something VERY similar. Our solution was to have the wedding here where we live, and my family who could afford it flew here. We helped a couple family members with the cost of their airfare. And it meant my husband’s whole family, his family friends, and our friends who live here were able to come.
In the end, almost all of our loved ones could make it. But if some hadn’t been able to make it and all lived in the same city, I would’ve been happy to plan a low-key backyard reception in that city, so we could celebrate our new marriage with them and so they wouldn’t feel left out.
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