(Closed) Confused about what to do with my name

posted 4 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Could you somehow combine your mom’s names into one and have it as your middle name? Like say you are Anna Smith Jacobson, you could be Anna Smithson (new last name).

Just an idea.

Post # 4
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2499 posts
Buzzing bee

@scarlet_letter:  Some people have two middle names, which I think is more common in the South? That way you can retain both your moms’ names while picking up your husband’s last name, and without having to hyphenate anything.

You could also try to incorporate both last names into one name. For example, Wilson + Alfred = Wilfred. It doesn’t work with all names, but it’s worth a shot.

Lastly, you could always just go by your husband’s name socially. You would still be Your First Name + Mom 1’s Last Name + Mom 2’s Last Name legally, but you could introduce yourself as “Mrs. DH’s Last Name” to friends and put that down on Christmas/holiday cards.

ETA: I think it’s wonderful that you are trying to honor both of your moms. Also, I had another idea. If you were to drop one of your moms’ names from your name and you decided to have children, you could give your son one of your mom’s last names as a middle name. Or if you have a daughter, you could give her one of your mom’s first names as a middle name. Just a thought.

Post # 5
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606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

I have two middle names and it’s no big deal (just very long on my DL and passport). I think it would be great to take your husband’s last name and make your two moms’ last names your two middle names. Whichever name is first will be your “middle initial” when you fill out forms.

Post # 6
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Two middle names, girlfriend. I’m doing it!

Post # 8
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70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You could also maybe take FI’s last name, and make your two mom’s first names your new middle name, so your name isn’t so long?

(Your name) (Mom 2 first name) (Mom 1 first name) (FI Last name)

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Sodo Park

I’m pretty sure I’m taking Sparky’s last name socially and keeping my name professionally. I might change my mind when we have kids, but for now that’s my plan!

Post # 11
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You can have two middle names.  On most forms, full name can just be first/last, though sometimes not.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@scarlet_letter:  didn’t see the bit about WA state.  I think you’d have to go through a full legal name change, to add a new middle name.

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