Post # 16
Stop grasping at straws hoping he will change his mind. He so blatantly told you he doesn’t want to get married and doesn’t want to marry you and you’re setting a timeline? Seroously for what!? You want to be sure that you waste X amount of time before your relationship ends or you settle for being a girlfriend. At this point you’re the one torturing yourself. He was very clear with you now the onus is on you for not leaving.
Post # 17
He is scared that it will ruin your relationship. I can relate I very much want to marry my boyfriend but after a failed marriage I worry the same things.
We are happy and I am confident it will be a successful marriage this time around but it’s a scary step. If you love him give him time. What ruined his last marriage? And talk about how you two can prevent that from reoccurring he needs to be reminded that this isnt the same relationship. Marriage doesnt ruin people. Marrying the WRONG person does. I’m still recovering and it’s been over 2 years.
I wouldnt focus on a timeline. If he insists hes not ready you have two choices. Be patient and wait for him, or move on and start again.
What is more important to you at this point in time.