Post # 1
my fiance got a call that his grandmother has moved in with his step dad and that we have the opportunity to get the 3 bedroom house…but that would mean moving almost an hour away from my family and the town i know like the back of my hand…we would have a house…but in a place idk about and that idk if its safe…my towns always been so safe we can sleep with doors unlocked (not that i do just those times ive forgotten.) to a place in illinois that i know nothing about…im so lost. my fiance wants the answer tomorrow and he literlly just told me about it…im so scared and feel like crying. ive never lived farther then 5 min from my family (21 y/o) and they help us out so much…i just need some advice…
Post # 3
Moving can be scary but I would and have moved for a great deal on a house. You will make friends and learn your way around. I have now lived in 13 states. It really can be fun! Life is all about attitude so tell yourself good things about moving. 😀 Then go check out that house and the neighborhood. You can always back out if it is a bad neighborhood but you will never know til you go scope it out.
Post # 4
Go visit the house. Don’t just be scared
Post # 5
Wow, that is really short notice! I understand why you’re feeling hesitant and rushed.
If you’re truly interested in the house (I’m guessing that you are), I’d recommend trying the city-data forums to get a general feel for the neighborhood. Hopefully they have some useful info over there! I’m in the process of moving and it’s been an incredible resource.
Post # 6
I totally understand how you feel. I love the town I grew up in and the only time I have left was during college I moved 2 hours away but visited home atleast every other weekend plus long breaks at Christmas and the whole summer. My fiance ended up taking a job in the same city he went to college in but before we got engaged I told him marrying him meant he would have to try and find a job back in our hometown (we started dating in high school) he agreed and transfered up here for work but honestly he doesn’t like it and I feel like its my fault he gave up a job he loves. Now, he has the oppurtunity to go back to his old job (which is a pay raise) and now that I am finishing up my masters degree, I will have better job oppurtunities there as well but its 2 hours away from my family. I am considering it, because his happiness is important and its a great place to live as well and we both have more oppurutunities and our future children would as well but its scary.
I am SUPER close with my parents and while they aren’t super old or anything (in there late 50’s) I start thinking about losing them and how I want to spend as much time as possible with them and living 2 hours away seems hard. But I know this is a normal part of becoming an adult and starting a family of your own. And they promise if we decide to do it that they will come stay with us one weekend a month and we will come visit home one weekend a month and the weekends we don’t meet up we will meet halfway for dinner or something.
So my biggest advise.. Make a pro/con list and then compromise some so you can both be happy!
Post # 7
Wow, that is really short notice! Merry Christmas!
Post # 8
An hour isn’t that far away. At least its not across the country! It’s good to explore new things. Just go check it out!
Post # 9
CHECK OUT THE HOUSE!
(As long as it’s in a decent area….) An hour is NOTHING. Cmon! I lived 4 hrs away at one time from my folks and still visited almost every weekend. This could be an opprtunity to carve out a new life with your sweetie and have some privacy from other family while still being super close. What a blessing if it could work out.
Post # 10
lol…I’ve driven farther to a decent Trader Joes!
Post # 11
@clockwerk: i say embrace change & be bold. having a house would be great, wish I could lol. Maybe one day. I’ve always been a independant creature. one who goes her won way. you’ve got to go out of your shell & go to places yopu’ve never been
Post # 12
At least go see the house. As someone who moved out/away at 19, and had a roommate who first moved out at 26, do yourself a favor. She “couldn’t handle” living out of her parents’ house even though we were five minutes away. :
Post # 13
thank guys. we are supposed to go look at the house soon. still nervous but we are going to look at least!