(Closed) Confused and Torn

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You are not wrong to want a traditional wedding to celebrate your union.  No one needs to know that you and your hubby already legally tied the knot and it’s no one’s business the circumstances surrounding the reason either.

Do whatever kind of wedding you want to do, destiation, local, big, small, whatever… it’s you and your hubby’s time to celebrate with friends and family, and you can do it however you choose to.

Post # 4
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If no one knows then how can they even care? Do what you want and what will make you feel like you’re really married. If that’s a destination wedding then great, if it’s a traditional wedding go for it too!

Post # 5
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2442 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You are not the first person to do this, nor the last.  So don’t feel badly at all.  

If you really want the wedding for your family and they say a Destination Wedding is expensive, just plan a traditional wedding.  If you just want to get away, then do your Destination Wedding.  Which is more important to you?  Traditional wedding with family, or Destination Wedding with maybe not so much family?

Post # 6
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Fiance and I are doing something similar.  We need to get married this year for financial reasons but we’re not telling anyone and I am planning a traditional wedding.  I’m treating our civil marriage as paperwork and treating the wedding as our true marriage.  My cousin recently did the same thing; sometimes the timing just doesn’t work quite right for these situations and it’s nothing that you should feel guilty about nor is it any reason to take away from the celebration you have with your family and friends. 

With respect to whether you should do a traditional church or Destination Wedding, I think the most important thing is to have the wedding that you and Fiance want…Like PPs have said, it’s your day to celebrate with hubby surrounded by those you love most!

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