Post # 1
First of all i dont want to hear any ” leave him” comments or ” hes cheating”, i would like some friendly advice please as i have never encountered this sort of thing before.
I have always had this irrational fear or abandonment, that one day everyone will just up and leave. I know its silly, it doesnt make sence and normally i over think things and over react. Id greatly apreciate some feedback.
Yesterday my husband was telling me a “funny story” about how our new building manager, angel, ran into him in the under ground parking as he was heading back to work after his lunch and she rushed over to him and started talking to him about our new car ( its a 2013 hyundi sonata gl) so its nice but its not a fancy sports car, its a huge family sadan. Not somthing id expect someone to oogle i guess. She kept him there for 10-15 minutes apparently, made him late for work pestering him to let her sit in the car, look at the dash, go for a ride. He said no no no he had to get back to work, but did let her look at the dash to get her off his back. Her and my husband talk on a semi regular basis about our appartmen ( so i assume), we need to move in the summer n ive been looking for new appartments but now hes having her look for a 2 bedroom in the same building… theres a reason we wanted to leave and now we are staying? it just all seems wierd. She seems a little too friendly with him yet when i pass by her office n smile n wave she looks at me blankly and looks back ah her computer. She knows we are married, she knows we have 2 kids and she knows we have a third on the way.
Someone tell me im over reacting? or does it sound like shes stepping over boundries?
Post # 3
@myluverbuny: I don’t think it seems like your husband is doing anything fishy, but she is definitely acting inapproporiately. I think you should talk to him again about finding another place, and if you guys are really open with each other you might want to ask him to stop being so friendly with her. Instead of stopping and chatting about the car and being late to work, he should have waved, got in, and driven away. I would never be late to work because of politeness. He should distance himself and keep the relationship professional, less personal.
Post # 4
@myluverbuny: First of all, deep breaths. I don’t think there is any reason to overreact. She might have been genuinely interested in the car. Maybe she’s in the market for a new one or likes new cars. She could just be friendly. Nothing has crossed any lines. No reason to get possesive or upset. You are pregnant, don’t stress yourself out over small things. Just be flattered that she might like him (again, could just be friendly). Take faith that your man loves YOU and is with YOU.
Post # 5
She sounds like a real peach. It sounds like your husband is honest with you though so I wouldn’t think he’s cheating or even thinking about it. Talk to him about how you don’t want to stay in that same apartment building so there’s no reason to look at a two bedroom. and maybe make a point to have all correspondence about your current apartment be directed to you and not your husband,
Post # 6
thanks, i know he would never do anything to hurt me, and he loves me to pieces, Might just be the pregnancy hormones driving me up the wall?? lol Im still going to push for a brand new place hopefully we dont but heads on that. Thanks guys!
Post # 7
@BeatlesFan629: thats a good idea, i’ll have to do that
Post # 8
@myluverbuny: that sounds totally weird. He may have only told you that story just in case someone may have seen them down there alone together in the car maybe? And told you so he has an alibi if someone says anythig to you. you guys were planning on moving and now all of a sudden he wants to stay? It sounds sketchy. You also said you have a little one on the way. Everytime I hear about someone’s husband having an affair its usually when the wife is pregnant. maybe bc of less intimacy idk I’m just saying pay close attention to every little detail and take notice if he starts talking about her more often. But don’t say anything to him about it I would investigate everything before mentioning anything or giving him a heads up you think something’s going on bc then he will just get sneakier.
Post # 9
I think you are overreacting. People interact. It doesn’t mean they have nefarious intentions. And even if the manger does, it doesn’t seem like you husband does. Take a breath!
Post # 10
And even if she is blatently hitting on him, if he knows his boundaries (and it sounds like he probably does), I don’t think there’s anything to do/anything to worry about. Trust your husband. 🙂