(Closed) Confused Bridesmaid

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 46
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mbb90:  Why is the hens on Saturday but then travel to the island on the Sunday? Do you mean meet in her city on the Friday, and then travel to the island resort on the Sunday? Anyway you certainly don’t need to spend Sunday with the bride, and I’d be very tempted to skip the hens party too. The hens party wouldn’t be so bad if your partner was invited to the wedding. But as it stands she’s trying to have it both ways: expecting you for everything (hens party and wedding), but no consideration of your partner. Which is why I’d still recommend bringing him but probably skipping the hens party (or some of it, depending how long it is).

You really need to talk to the bride ASAP, instead of waiting for Christmas.

Post # 47
1412 posts
Bumble bee

She’s having a Monday Destination Wedding and isn’t inviting the BM’s boyfriend? Sounds like a peach. Decline!

Post # 49
48 posts
  • Wedding: November 2016

The bridal party is supposed to be able to bring a guest. Not to mention this is a destination wedding, which makes the option of brining a guest all the more important.


Post # 50
255 posts
Helper bee

mbb90:  I think that’s rude and I wouldn’t attend. I would graciously decline and leave it at that. If my partner isn’t invited than I’m taking that personally. He is half of you, so why is he not welcome? Seems stupid to me. Especially if he’s paying his own way there.

Post # 52
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

How awful!! Of course your partner should be invited to the ceremony and reception..I’ve never heard of such a thing! I understand it’s her day, but wouldn’t she want it to be a beautiful day for everyone?! She’s not being a good friend or a good person! 

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