Post # 46
mbb90: Why is the hens on Saturday but then travel to the island on the Sunday? Do you mean meet in her city on the Friday, and then travel to the island resort on the Sunday? Anyway you certainly don’t need to spend Sunday with the bride, and I’d be very tempted to skip the hens party too. The hens party wouldn’t be so bad if your partner was invited to the wedding. But as it stands she’s trying to have it both ways: expecting you for everything (hens party and wedding), but no consideration of your partner. Which is why I’d still recommend bringing him but probably skipping the hens party (or some of it, depending how long it is).
You really need to talk to the bride ASAP, instead of waiting for Christmas.
Post # 47
She’s having a Monday Destination Wedding and isn’t inviting the BM’s boyfriend? Sounds like a peach. Decline!
Post # 48
aussiemum1248: From my most recent conversation with her, she is hinting at a hens spa day, and then drinks in the evening but nothing crazy. i don’t think there will be too many girls coming along to it, which again makes these things expensive. Anyway.. It would mean flying to her city, or driving 10 hours for the Hens on the Saturday and then travelling from there 2 1/2 hours to get the place where the ferry leaves for the resort, which is then another 30minutes.So I am guessing we are expected to drive or fly and rent a hire car if they are not arranging transport from their city to the ferry destination for the hens/bucks attendees to get to the wedding location. OMG the more questions people are asking the more complicated this whole thing sounds. I will definitely have to set her straight, you can’t expect people to do that. No matter how much they are willing to do for you, you just can’t.
We are at the age where a lot of friends are getting married and I perseonally have been to so many, and have many coming up, it is kind of ridiculous to spend that much just on one. No matter how important that friend is to me. I know she doesn’t have as many close friends as I do, and I understand that they have a budget and have given everyone over a years notice to save for it, but that doesn’t necesasrily mean people are willing to spend a lot more because of the notice.
I wish I had more confidence to say something about my partner, but I feel, I will just plod along and make her happy in regards to that.. With her it is easier to talk in person, hence waiting until Christmas. She is an oddball, which I love, she definitely doesn’t have the same thought process as everyone else. Very oriented around what works for her and has always been like that. I guess I never really thought of it being a bad thing until now.
Post # 49
The bridal party is supposed to be able to bring a guest. Not to mention this is a destination wedding, which makes the option of brining a guest all the more important.
Post # 50
mbb90: I think that’s rude and I wouldn’t attend. I would graciously decline and leave it at that. If my partner isn’t invited than I’m taking that personally. He is half of you, so why is he not welcome? Seems stupid to me. Especially if he’s paying his own way there.
Post # 51
beebee1983: I agree 100%!!
Post # 52
How awful!! Of course your partner should be invited to the ceremony and reception..I’ve never heard of such a thing! I understand it’s her day, but wouldn’t she want it to be a beautiful day for everyone?! She’s not being a good friend or a good person!