(Closed) confused by mixed messages

posted 4 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

This sounds like 6th grade. He’s not interested. Move on.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My hunch is that if he were interested, he’d either email more in the first place or respond enthusiastically to your most recent email. Since he’s done neither, I have to assume that he’s not interested. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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bonnybee :  it doesn’t sound like you two have talked enought at all for any kind of relationship to start. It would be rather odd. You hear from him once in a blue moon but you want a relationship..?…huh? 

Yeah, he doesn’t sound interested, he sounds bored… I’d stop replying.

Look for a local relationship. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This is silly. Drop him and move on.

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I’m really confused as to where mixed messages come in.  You took what appeared to be completely friendly platonic occasional chatting via email in which you never previously hinted at anything remotely romantic – you were basically pen pals and…just the mere fact he emailed you was your indication he was interested?  Do you think everyone who emails you in a friendly manner is somehow toying with your affection?

You built it up in your head, you misread signals, and you overshot.  Move on.  If it will make you feel better, you can write one last email apologizing for the misread and then move on.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

Nothing about this is normal if you want a real relationship with someone. He doesn’t sound at all interested, so I’d just drop this.

Post # 9
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164 posts
Blushing bee

I’m sorry dear, from what you’ve described it really sound like he was just being your friend.. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Whoa  full stop.  You’re married. That was an important piece of info you left out. You’re lonely and you’re looking for attention and affection  where there is none. Focus your energy on your marriage. Stop emailing this guy.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You’re married and asking him if he wants an affair? WTF?

Girl, if you’re lonely in your marriage you should probably talk to your H or attend couples counselling. Not attempt to start an emotional affair with someone who’s not interested.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Wait you’re married? And you and your husband talk about how much he likes you because of how he acts ‘when you’re together’ – which was 3 times, on vacation, once?

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Um, no. You just jumped to crazy town. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

MARRIED!?!?!! Why the hell are you seeking attention from other men?? That’s called CHEATING. 

Seek marriage and personal counseling!! 

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