(Closed) confused – choosing an e-ring?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Do you have a picture of your ring? Have purchased your wedding bands yet? You could get a diamond wrap for your sapphire engagement ring. I have a sapphire stone in mine and it is wrapped with a diamond band and I am also getting an additional diamond band for my wedding band.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I like @noritake22:‘s suggestion. If you don’t have bands yet, check out getting some diamonds included in the band or a wrap setting. There are many locations to get conflict-free diamonds, and also diamond alternatives such as moissanite or Asha that can help clear the conscience and keep your bank account happy. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

While I understand where your Fiance is coming from, the whole “blood diamond thing” is extremely over-hyped and there is a LOT of misinformation out there about the issue. The truth is, it is illegal in the US to import diamonds that are not “conflict-free.” Every diamond imported legally into the US since 2002 when the law was passed in congress, is conflict-free. However, there is still a chance that some dealers may have stones in their inventory from prior to 2002. You can definitely request that they guarantee the stones used in your purchase from them are from conflict-free sources. Any reputable jeweler should be able to provide you with reasonable, credible assurance that the stones are conflict-free.

I do think it’s unfair that you weren’t able to get the engagement ring you want. It’s not like you were demanding some 5 carat honker or something ridiculous. You just wanted a traditional diamond. And there’s nothing wrong with that. The ring is supposed to be a gift for YOU, and since he was letting you pick it, you should have been able to get the stone of your choosing. I think you should revisit the issue with Fiance and see if there’s a solution to this you both can agree upon.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’d say that you’re not insensitive for sometimes wishing that you had a diamond ring. I myself expected a diamond ring when I got engaged, not that I really wanted a diamond, but I still expected it. I didn’t get a ring at all, instead I wear one of the rings my mom gave me as a stand in.

 Is there any other reason why you want a diamond other than the fact that you expected one? If it’s that important to you that you have a diamond, then you should talk to your FH about it.  If you want the look of a diamond, but not the price or ethical issues that come with them, why not check out Moissanite? Or as another option, you could reset it with diamond sidestones or like @noritake22: suggested, you could always get a wrap or incorperate diamonds into your wedding bad.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I understand. Most dream of the diamond engagement ring — that’s just the way it is and it is hard to accept something else, no matter how beautiful or thoughtful. Yes, this is a gift for you, and I hope you can discuss your feelings on this openly with your fiancé. In our searches we came across http://www.brilliantearth.com/ which touts conflict-free diamonds though I haven’t looked into this particular site in depth. Perhaps this reference would benefit you more and be acceptable to you and your fiancé toward either an e-ring or diamond band? I hope it works out and that you are happier with whatever is decided. That said, congratulations to you on your engagement!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Just out of curiosity, not trying to pry, but what are  the other technical reasons he doesn’t care for diamonds? And for the record, your  ring is GORGEOUS. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Also, after you get  married, you could switch the e-ring to the right hand, and wear a more traditional diamond band- then you get the traditional diamond for the left hand, and the sapphire for the right! Best of both worlds. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Personally I adore sapphires for engagement rings and have one. Now, I won’t get into why you feel as though you have to have a diamond (it seems to be a sensitive topic on here), but I’m glad you’re open to alternatives. Surely he wouldn’t be opposed to you getting a moissanite? It’s super sparkly, white, and grown in a lab rather than mined. Zero conflict, much more reasonable price wise.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love your e-ring! It’s really beautiful. Like others have suggested, I’d get a blinging moissanite anniversary band and call it a day. Moissaniteco.com is a really reliable website that a lot of Bees have used. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

You’re not a bad person, but frankly, I don’t think he should have to buy a diamond if he is against the diamond industry, just like a girl who is against the diamond industry shouldn’t have to wear one. Could you not come to some sort of compromise? I have a moissanite which looks exactly like a diamond without any of the diamond problems. I think you should ask yourself why you actually want a diamond ring and go from there.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

There is a website where they sell conflict free diamond rings and wedding bands, maybe you can try that? Just google it. Anyways, you aren’t selfish at all for wanting a diamond, my ring is an amythest but then again I was leaning towards the traditional diamond. I think if you can’t get a diamond maybe a white topaz?

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I wasn’t specifically saying to ask for another ring, but I have a friend that wears her engagement ring (that she received when she got engaged, obvs) on her right hand, wedding band on left- she had a ring that wouldn’t allow a band to sit flush, so she just separated them. I’m not necessarily suggesting you ask for an “extra” ring, just that maybe you could compromise, and get a diamond eternity band (aka a band with small diamonds around it-no big center stone or anything) to wear on your left? Sorry if this isn’t making much sense! 

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