Post # 1
I’m a bit confused and wanted to reach out for others’ opinions. A friend of mine is getting married in September. I’ve received the Save the Date, and was recently invited to her Bachelorette Party via Facebook. I was a little surprised that I was invited (she’s not exactly my inner, inner circle), but was flattered nonetheless. I was talking to another girl who was invited tonight and just found out that our friend is also having a bridal shower soon, which I have not been invited to. I didn’t even know there was one! I’m super confused and am wondering if I should even take this personally. She can be a bit of a space cadet, so I’m not sure that it was even intentional. What does everyone else think?
Post # 3
from my experience many times showers are family events.
also, it may be thrown for her by someone who doesn’t know you and is only inviting the friends they have in common, from a certain group
Post # 5
Showers are mainly for gifts and not all girls invited to the wedding are invited to the shower. I think they’re meant for the women closest to the bride and both families. However, a bachelorette party is for fun and I think any of the girls around the bride’s age can be invited for that.
I wouldn’t take it personally. Hey, it’s one less event you have to go to and see people you don’t really know and buy a gift for. The bachelorette is more fun anyway! 🙂
Post # 7
A close family friend is throwing my shower, and is only inviting friends that she and her husband have in common with my parents. My bachelorette will be a fun event for friends and I.
Totally agree with all PPs, don’t take it personally at all, especially since she probably doesn’t have a say in the shower invite list
Post # 8
@sw7577: you said you are not in her inner circle, so you shouldn’t feel slighted that you weren’t invited to the shower.
it could be family and close friends, bride didn’t give host invite names and the host had to decide on her own who to invite, etc.
every female invited to the wedding does not have to be invited to the shower.