(Closed) Confused – invited to Bachelorette party but not the Wedding shower?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

from my experience many times showers are family events.


also, it may be thrown for her by someone who doesn’t know you and is only inviting the friends they have in common, from a certain group


Post # 4
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@bebero:  +1

Post # 5
6747 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Showers are mainly for gifts and not all girls invited to the wedding are invited to the shower.  I think they’re meant for the women closest to the bride and both families.  However, a bachelorette party is for fun and I think any of the girls around the bride’s age can be invited for that. 

I wouldn’t take it personally. Hey, it’s one less event you have to go to and see people you don’t really know and buy a gift for.  The bachelorette is more fun anyway! 🙂

Post # 7
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

A close family friend is throwing my shower, and is only inviting friends that she and her husband have in common with my parents. My bachelorette will be a fun event for friends and I. 

Totally agree with all PPs, don’t take it personally at all, especially since she probably doesn’t have a say in the shower invite list

Post # 8
8023 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@sw7577:  you said you are not in her inner circle, so you shouldn’t feel slighted that you weren’t invited to the shower.

it could be family and close friends, bride didn’t give host invite names and the host had to decide on her own who to invite, etc.

 every female invited to the wedding does not have to be invited to the shower.


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