(Closed) Confused…. long

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sounds to me like it might have been just to throw you off from thinking it’ll happen on the trip – or maybe he just wants you to know it won’t happen on the trip so you don’t get your hopes up.

Either way, I think sticking to your plan of not expecting it on your trip is best.  If it doesn’t happen, you’re ready for that and if it does, it’ll be a surprise πŸ™‚

I don’t think you made a mistake telling him you won’t go shopping with him.  It’s understandable that it confused you and I think if it doesn’t happen while you’re there, then when you get back and are ready to talk about it you can tell him you’ve changed your mind and are ready to go (if that’s how you’re feeling at the time).

Try to relax and focus on enjoying your trip – I’m sure it’ll be wonderful.  And keep us posted!

Post # 4
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

Girl, take some deep breaths!!  It sounds like he’s trying to throw you off and doing a terrible job at it, lol!  If I were you, I wouldn’t get too worked up–he’s planning to propose soon, whether it’s on the vacation or right after, so you should be celebrating!  Have fun with this time and don’t stress too much–it’s right around the corner.  He probably has the whole thing planned out and just wanted to drive you nuts πŸ˜‰

If the proposal doesn’t happen on your vaca and he still wants you to look at rings with him, I’d go do it.  He just wants to make sure you’re happy πŸ˜‰

Good luck and an early congrats to you both!

Post # 5
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think he is trying to throw you off too.  BUT focus on a wonderful vacation and try not worry too much about it happening while you are there (just in case!).  You can re-evaluate whether or not you want to go ring shopping with him when you two get back from your trip…if you need to go ring shopping!

The important thing is that he is going to propose soon and that is exciting!  Have a fantastic vacation πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance did this to me. We were going on a long weekend trip and he told me we would go ring shopping after that. He proposed about a week BEFORE the trip πŸ™‚ He may just be trying to throw you off!

Post # 7
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

It sounds like he’s trying to throw you off but I’m no expert. Maybe he wants to trick you into thinking it won’t happen on vacation so you’ll just relax and enjoy the vacation, and he can catch you off-guard and surprise you!

Post # 8
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A few months before my Fiance proposed we went “Ring Shopping.” He took me to a million different Jewelers and at each store he made me pick my favorite ring. I like very antique style rings and my Fiance is very traditional. I knew he was going to choose a ring, I didn’t know which one and I didn’t know when he would propose. But he got the exact ring I wanted and it was such a surpise.

I’m glad we did the ring shopping because I would’ve gotten something I didn’t really like! I say go with him!

Post # 9
1390 posts
Bumble bee

Well, either way, the good news is that you have some time to see how it plays out. Go on vacation. If he proposes, you will obviously be thrilled. If he doesn’t, you know he’s ready and about to go ring shopping. If you come home with a naked finger, let him know that you’ve thought about it and that you would like to go ring shopping together, but that you’d still like him to ultimately pick your ring and surprise you with it. If he’s trying to throw you off, you’ll know soon enough. If he really wants your help/input, you’ll know that too. Just see what he does on vacay and go from there!

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