Post # 1
i am so confused on my bridesmaids! i need help and advice asap!
My 2 bestfriends that ive had for years, and never any issue with know there already in the party….
one is my maid of honor, and the other is right after her…. (can they both be moh?)
then im very confused to add in my fiances sister or not…who ive been extremely close to for 7 soild years, then over this last year and a half, lost so much contact with, and began fighting with….
(im pretty sure im not in her wedding which is 3 months before ours)
Then i have 2 friends i was really close to during school- and we still talk alot, but one im a tiny bit closer to than the other, and i can share way more information & secrets with….
The other is close to my fiances sister…..
here is my idea for the wedding party-
My best friend (MOH)- HIS brother(BESTMAN)
Best friend- Fiance cousin
Friend who im close to & able to share secrets with & talk to very often – His friend who lives with us
Friend who im close to & talk oftern – his friend hes known forever & still close (her boyfriend as well)
Sound good to you girls?!??!
Post # 3
@anb: Future hubby and i agreed on this- but im still worried on the drama this may bring….
But then again- i want my bridesmaids& Maid/Matron of Honor to be people ive never had issues with- who have shown me that they are there for me, and who i know genuinely care & love me for me!
Which are those 4 beautiful women i mentioned….. im just confused on adding his sister or not i guess….
Post # 4
You don’t have to add your FI’s sister, especially if you think it might cause drama. I think she’d understand, if she didn’t feel obligated to ask you for her own.
Post # 5
@anb: If you don’t want his sister to be a bridesmaid you don’t have to ask her. But, if it would cause major family drama not to ask her and your Fiance has another guy he could use to round out the party, then maybe you should ask her.
You could also ask her to take a different place of honor (i.e. guest book attendant or something) to recognize her as part of the family and important but not necessarily in your bridal party.
Post # 6
I just wanted to add that you can totally have more than one Maid/Matron of Honor. 🙂
Post # 7
@atalante: I just feel like if she doesnt want me in hers, then im not going to even waste my time.
thing that is sad is i’ve been the one trying to communicate to her all the time… i even apologized and said sorry for everything thats happened over the last year and a half, and it wasnt all of my fault.
I never realized we had a problem until i would text day after day, and never get replies, and then i fallout with my soon to be BIL’s girlfriend, and then she really showed how much she forgot about me.
I still try all the time even after apologizing for i dont know what, and she still just never talks to me. so you know what im not having her in mine. i thought i would to be the bigger person, and prove to her i still really care about her (seeing how she will be family now), but care as a best friend that we once were…..
I would rather focus my time and memories on people who really love me and care!
sorry needed to vent….