Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding in April 2012. We already know of a select few people (older and ill family members) who will not be able to travel for this wedding. We thought that we could have a very small religious ceremony in a church prior to the destination wedding. We know our priest, he is a close family friend. This is where I am beginning to get confused: Once you have been married religiously, can you still have another wedding celebration/ceremony? When do I have the bachelorette party or wedding shower? Do we tell our destination wedding guests about the small scale wedding? My parents have been filling me with doubt with all of these questions and now I am confused!?!
Please share your wisdom!
Post # 3
Married is married; you cannot get married to the same person twice unless you divorce in between. Why not have your destination wedding and then a larger “at home” reception to celebrate with the people who are unable to travel. You could do all the usual reception things – meal, dancing, cake, etc. – you just wouldn’t play-act getting married again.
Bridal showers and bachelorette parties are for not-yet-married women, so you could schedule them anytime before you get married.
Post # 4
@honeubee: Of course you can. There are MANY MANY people who have their religious/legal ceremony before doing the wedding celebration due to military, immigration, etc.,
I know for many destination weddings, quite a few countries will not do a legal ceremony for you so you have to get married before hand.