Post # 1
Hi everyone, first time poster here! Love this community.
Bf and I have been dating for 2 years, and for his birthday this year I paid half of his plane ticket to Germany. He’s been wanting to go for Oktoberfest, and he left 5 days ago with 3 other friends. (I’m a first year teacher so I couldn’t take time off so soon.) He’s texted me about twice the times he’s been gone, which is fine with me because he’s on a trip. Today he called me early sounding pretty drunk. He asked me to look at his Snapchat story so I could see the 2 German girls he took pictures with and he wanted to know which ones I thought was prettier? I asked him what did it matter, then he said I’m in a ‘race’ for him and that I’m competing with a lot of people not just in Germany but back at home.
I was obviously annoyed by this and he just kept repeating that and saying I was in last place and I needed to step up. I then said ‘I quit the race’ and he said ‘Then we don’t need to talk anymore bye’ and hang up the phone. I’m so hurt by this- I don’t know if he was drunk talking but it’s still not okay.
what do you bees think I should do?
Post # 2
What the fuck? You are in a “race” for him? He sounds like a jackass.
It also sounds like you guys broke up, which you are probably better off anyway.
Post # 3
What kind of guy is he? He’s a shit.
Post # 4
I was going to say “never speak to him again” before I saw you had been together for TWO YEARS.
What the hell? Can you tell us more about your relationship? Do you guys live together? What is he normally like? Unless this was severely, severely out of character for him, I would probably not speak to him until he got back, then inform him that we were no longer an item- of course, depending on if you live together, etc., this could be more difficult.
Post # 5
How old are you? He sounds like he’s a teenager. Tell him you don’t play games, so if he wants a race, you quit.
Post # 6
Well isn’t he the fucking prize? Boy, bye.
Even if he sobers up and comes crawling on his face all superficially charming and remorseful, please have enough self-respect not to let Mr. Uber-douche weasel his slimy-assed bottom-feeding self back into your life.
I fully believe in holding people accountable for things they say when they’re drinking. Sober him may have better sense than to send such juvenile frat-boy relationship ending garbage to you- but drunk him = inner him with the filter removed. A decent guy wouldn’t say you’re in a race for him and need to step up your game, even if he was shit-faced.
Post # 7
What the actual fuck? I would remember that (super cliche but true) statement “drunk words are sober thoughts” then I would dump his ass and go find someone who isn’t competing for anything. This is crazy. Has he done other douchey things in the past or is this out of the blue?
Post # 8
A race to the bottom, apparently.
you paid for part of his ticket and he tellls you you’re in a race with German girls and you’re coming in last.
This guy is suffering big delusions about his own entitlement and worth, and that’s never a good sign for someone who’s supposed to be a partner. Even if he apologizes, his entitlement wasn’t a mistake.
Post # 9
What the hell?! This guy is an asshole.
Post # 10
Wow! What a douche!
I’m sorry bee, frankly, even if he tries to apologize I’d be concerned that he slept with other women on this trip.
Two years is a long time but I would not stay in a relationship with someone who acted like this. He should be grateful to have such a loving gf who paid for half his ticket and not send her photos of other girls telling her she’s in a “race”.
Post # 11
I would be so far gone after that phone call. What kind of person is he? He is a piece of shit. You’ve wasted 2 years on him… race you butt out of there.
Post # 12
What a jerk. I hope you stand your ground and that you truly are done with him.
Post # 13
ClaudiaKishi : We don’t live together, and he was a very sweet and attentive guy the first year, I was so happy to have found him, literally on cloud 9 everyday. This past year, since around January, he started partying every weekend, drinking and yes starting to act very inconsiderate and douchey to me. I thought it might be a phase and I would get my sweet man back, but it doesn’t seem like that’s going to happen.
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Post # 15
If he calls or texts you back tell him you don’t have time to respond, you are in a race of your own (to find a decent human to spend your time with). He sounds like an ass. Buh bye.