(Closed) Confused why I'm disappointed

posted 7 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
7646 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can’t relate since this is my first cycle off BC and we are NTNP, but you will get that BFP in time.

I don’t know your situation, but if it were me I wouldn’t be too upset about it happening 3.5 months away from the wedding. I assume you already have your dress and its altered. granted stuff like that can be changed, but that would just add even more stress onto all the stuff you’re already dealing with. Enjoy this time and your wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 4
3755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Oh yes! We went off BC in December even though our wedding isn’t until April of next year. A month or two before that though, I had a late period and thought maybe… but wasn’t and was really disappointed. It’s totally natural, I think. Enjoy this time!!!! You’ll have plenty of time to make babies after the wedding. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Post # 5
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I totally get it.  I’ve had this happen twice, actually.  We weren’t really ready yet, but when I thought it was a possibility, I realized that I wouldn’t be disappointed (actually, I’d be excited) if I ended up pregnant.  I think that’s the moment when you realize that you’re ready for that change when it does come.  Be patient, and it’ll happen when you’re totally ready πŸ™‚

Post # 6
2797 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Story time…

When my HS/college boyfriend and I started having sex, I wasn’t on the pill. Unfortunately, it was also when my cycle started to deviate from being uber reliable to totally wonky. One time, there was a condom malfunction, and it coincided with a cycle that went weeks longer than normal. I POAS twice on his insistence, and both were BFN. At the time we were both still in college, and we had no plans of getting married or anything. We grew up in a very conservative and religious area. Basically, being pregnant would have been the worst thing that could happen between us at that time. 

All of that being said, my heart was still a little hurt when I saw the BFNs. I wasn’t anywhere near the place where you are now, and there was still that little twinge of disappointment. I think that the very idea that there might be a ball of someone else’s cells growing inside of you can trigger hope and excitement in the part of your heart and soul that has always wanted kids. Even when you are so totally far away from being ready.

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